Pregnant and In Heat

[angleon2]

Why is it that people think that just because you're pregnant that you can't have sex? Since I became pregnant my husband has been giving me little or no sex. Practically avoiding me everytime I initiate it. And this is not my first pregnancy. He's behaved this way for my previous pregnancy also. What should I do about this if there is even anything I can do?

[sera300]

Talk to him about it. Some men feel awkward during a pregnancy and express less interest. Other's it does not bother.

[Engage!]

Let me give you the perspective of a husband with a one-month pregnant wife. Your husband might feel this way, or he might not. This is just how I feel.

It just feels inexplicably awkward. Also, I feel that somehow, even though I know this isn't true, that it might harm the baby. It's sort of that weird feeling that, although I'm having sex with my wife, there's something else in there.

So here's how I dealt with it. My wife loves sex. It seems that now that she's pregnant, she's hornier than ever, probably due to the hormones. When she doesn't get the sex she needs, she gets cranky and feels unloved, so I have the choice of getting over my discomfort or having an irritable wife.

What you need to do is just what sera said - talk. He probably won't tell you how he feels (we men tend not to do that very well), but at least you'll let him know how you feel. Don't make him feel like he HAS to have sex with you.

Just a quick question - how far along are you? My wife is a little over a month pregnant, so there aren't any noticable physical changes. As you get farther along, there's the physical aspect to deal with and probably a necessary change of positions.

[sera300]

What engage has said is very truthful, some men have a fear of doing harm while other's now perceive their wife not as a sexual being but more as an impending mom. There is a shift from "sex godess" to "expectant mom".

[Engage!]

The whole "Mom" thing can be kind of scary for men, because we often see our own mothers in our wives. There's that old song "I want a girl just like the girl that married dear old Dad." It's true. Alot of times we marry girls that are like our mothers, and to see that girl get pregnant makes us thing of Mom, which is then a turn-off.

[alban lusitanae]

You're going way out there mate But one thing is for certain, women do get more turned on during pregnancy, and I believe you can go up to the 4th month without problems. Then yes, you have to consider other positions.

[Brandye]

There is a sticky on sex and pregnancy that may help you.

[nottooblushing]

We were watching Knocked Up and my fiance was like "I think I would need to get use to the idea of sex when there is a little person inside of you. But I think you'd be such a raging bitch if you were hormonal and haven't had sex, booze, or cigarettes. Can't do anything about the rest, but at least I can give you sex."
I think, at least for me, I've thought about being a mom for my whole life. And I've been around my pregnant friends and family members (I swear, for a group of people who are as scholastically brilliant as my group of friends are, you'd think they would be able to figure out birth control.) But guys don't think about the whole concept much until they are in the situation

[Kiowa]

I've been through two pregnancies with my wife. Each time, I found her EXTREMELY sexy. And still find any pregnant woman VERY sexy, to the point where I'd enjoy taking her and having sex with that woman, even though she's a complete stranger. The fact is that some men do find there wives hugely sexy, as I do. The point is, take him to one of your doctor appointments and talk about sex with the physician. That's what me and my wife did for our first pregnancy, as both of us didn't know if sex was good to do while pregnant. If it still doesn't work, keep talking to him, tell him how you feel, and above all else, don't yell at him. He's going through alot, just as much as you are, just not physically. Yelling at him eill only push him away. My wife yelled alot during her first pregnancy, with my son, and we had a rough 9 months. When she was pregnant with our twin girls, she didn't yell, and we had a very nice and happy pregnancy. Just talk it out. If that doesn't work, then you can find plenty of sex toys that would get you through your pregnancy. And remember, you are very sexy to alot of men and women while pregnant, so live it up.

[vingo]

There is one poit u have to ask ur self about . is ur husben accept his pregnant or not how was his empretion when he knew ur pregnat he was happy or not if he not accept it so this will be the main raison . maybe he dos't accepte it and dons't neet to say to not hurt ur feeling