Normal Affection - Level of?

[Engage!]

I know the word "normal" seems to be abhorred on this forum, but bear with me on this thread.

What is a normal level of affection for a wife to have for her husband?

I guess I ought to clarify why I'm asking this. Obviously, my wife is clingy. She is also extremely affectionate, and is into the constant handholding, kissing, etc....

Is there a point when it becomes too much, or does it vary from person to person? I'm just kind of wanting everyone's opinions.....

[demonbuttercup]

Hmm
my b/f and I are affectionate but not overly. We hug and kiss randomly maybe out in public...but not making out. We'll hold hands like walking in the mall or something.
Is you wife being overly affectionate even at work???

I mean I enjoy signs of affection...but I wouldn't want someone constantly hanging on me kissing me all the time lol.

[EvilEvilKitten]

When in public, the amount of affection displayed should be done in small things such a offering her your arm, a smile with twinkling eyes, and small touches (non-sexual & above the waist) here and there. Anything more than this should be done only in private.

[aussiegal]

im also a girl who loves touching and kissing and all that but my man does not so much, he lets me touch him and play with him when were in bed( even if neither of us are interested in doing anything)and i dont annoy him so much during others times of the day. this works for us.

[Engage!]

Well, to clarify a bit further, my wife's affection is often very public, including at work. She has a habit of coming up behind me when I'm seated and wrapping her arms around my neck. Also, she'll sit really close to me and put her head on my shoulder, or even (and this happened at work one day) try to sit on my lap. I know that her display of affection is genuine (she does it in private all the time, and to an even greater degree), but I don't want her to appear to others like she's deprived or sluttish.

And when we're in bed together, she sleeps so close to me that sometimes I can't move and my back starts to hurt. Part of this is due to sleeping in such a small bed (and we can't change that until we get a bigger apartment), but she doesn't have to sleep on top of me!

[demonbuttercup]

Yeah it's one thing to be affectionate... it's another to constantly be invading someone's personal space!
I don't know how you handle it?!?

Also, like EEK said, there are appropriate times/places to do it, and I wouldn't think the workplace is one of those places.
What if she sits on your lap at work...and you pitch a tent! LOL doh!

[sera300]

PDA's should be kept to hand holding such as during a walk around a mall or when on a nice walk outdoors. Much more looks like "you need to get a room", in the home; is whatever makes the two of you comfortable. While at work, it should be hands off; otherwise you appear less then professional. During the time I was married, my husband did shift work & rotated. He would stop past the ER, at times we would have lunch or dinner together since we would not see each other for a week at a time based on our schedules. When, he was leaving, if no one was around and we were in the break room, I'd give him a quick kiss. End of physical contact, no more then that.

Even during the time where I was a Administrator, if he came in during lunch, I kept my office door open, my secretary knew who he was (as did other's) so there was no real physical contact. If a patients family came in unannounced, it was no big deal since it looked like husband & wife having lunch together. I would never jeopardize my position with inappropriate behavior.

[Engage!]

Wow. I don't know how I could go for a week without seeing my wife. Now that she works at the same place I work, we rarely go for more than three or four hours.

I wish we had a longer lunch together. Sometimes we go to the cafeteria and eat there, but alot of the time we sit in my office. I close the door and stick a note on it that I'm at lunch so we aren't bothered. We even had a quickie once, but I told her that we shouldn't be doing that too often. We're still getting used to our new routine, though.

[alban lusitanae]

PDAs amount should be left to the couple to decide. Just not something that breaks the law of course.

Love is all you need. Let's not impose limits on something so beautiful.
Breaking you back, though, is a bit too much

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Engage!

Wow. I don't know how I could go for a week without seeing my wife. Now that she works at the same place I work, we rarely go for more than three or four hours.

When you have to, it works, you manage to get through & it makes the time together much more precious. It was tough but work & law school took a great deal of time--it's a sacrifice you make together. Some have to travel due to work and that in itself makes for a great deal of time apart. There were weeks when the man I was engaged to flew for 8 weeks straight only to be home on a weekend; Monday morning was back on an airplane.