Partner Disabled - any ideas

[maupassant]

My partner is severely disabled and I care for her 24/7.I have not had sex for a very long time and have been advised to maybe seek a 'widow' or ladyfriend who has similar frustrations. I am getting older but still feel like a daft adolescent regarding sex. I think I am in a use-it-or-lose it situation. I would welcome some advice as to how to find someone in the Midlands with whom I could become friends and have a physical relationship.I could be regarded as 'ageing'!!!!

[sera300]

Adultfriendfinder.com or Iwantu.com--give this a try.

[Brandye]

Pick out a specific interest you have and seek out a club or group with that interest. In the aging population women almost always outnumber men in these groups. And "older women" have more difficulty finding sex partners than aging men!

Just do not go to Leeds. Every time I have driven that area I get lost in Leeds!

[maupassant]

[QUOTE=Brandye;184672]
2 places actually which are my bane in life are lovely Erskine Bridge in Glasgow o'er the Clyde which I seemingly cross from North to South when travelling north. My other scourge is Leicester...I have travelled there-through on about 10 occasions and each time I discover a different route.
But regarding my problem, I am still so frustrated.

[demonbuttercup]

My mom works at a assisted living facility as the hairdresser
Anyhow.. there is a guy there who's in a similar situation. I think now he's in his 80s and his wife just recently passed away...but he started "seeing" the lady that was his wife's caretaker. She lived in the house w/ them and was like only 50 yrs old or so.
Theyve been together for a long time...and the caretake hung in there w/ him even when she knew he needed to do things for his wife....and she took care of his wife...which made it a strange situation.

Like I said...the wife just recently passed away... I think this had been going on for 8 10 yrs or so.
The guy and the younger lady just recently bought an apt at the facility my mom works at in the independent living section. Of course all the people are talking wondering if they are getting married...since they live together...etc. but they are just having fun and enjoying each other's company.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Pick out a specific interest you have and seek out a club or group with that interest. In the aging population women almost always outnumber men in these groups. And "older women" have more difficulty finding sex partners than aging men!

Just do not go to Leeds. Every time I have driven that area I get lost in Leeds!

Just wondering if a SATNAV might help you in Leeds??

I am still searching for that elusive lady to help me....7.5 years is a long time to be celibate; whichever lady I find is in for the time of her life (I hope!!??!!)

[Brandye]

Nothing would help me in Leeds! Fortunately, I have not driven in that area for years.

BTW, I do have an older male "friend" whom I see a few times a year at a repeating meeting. He has been caring for an invalid wife for twenty years and he has sought similar outlet. Happens to involve me.

Join a Garden Club. Almost all women; many widowed and in situations similar to yours, frustrated because all the other members are women and ripe for the picking by a true gentleman. And if you were a woman asking, I would also recommend trolling among those women. You may encounter some of that behaviour but a man at the meetings will be a real novelty.

Kind of like allowing a guy backstage at a topless dance review with a twenty pound note!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Adult Friend Finder, a "sex site" will put you in touch with people in your area.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Nothing would help me in Leeds! Fortunately, I have not driven in that area for years.

BTW, I do have an older male "friend" whom I see a few times a year at a repeating meeting. He has been caring for an invalid wife for twenty years and he has sought similar outlet. Happens to involve me.

Join a Garden Club. Almost all women; many widowed and in situations similar to yours, frustrated because all the other members are women and ripe for the picking by a true gentleman. And if you were a woman asking, I would also recommend trolling among those women. You may encounter some of that behaviour but a man at the meetings will be a real novelty.

Kind of like allowing a guy backstage at a topless dance review with a twenty pound note!

Thanks again Brandye; I was aware of your friendship with the male. (Although I do not post too often, I do read material on here and the 'senior members' all have interesting cv's) I just have to say he is a very lucky guy.

There are some good ideas from yourself and others. I will continue to try!
Incidentally, I've never been to a 'topless dance revue' and I've never paid for sex. But I understand your comparison with the Garden Clubs. (so its "Hoe Hoe Hoe for a Bundle of Fun!)