has this happened?

[xmbedir]

this is kinda directed more to guys, but girls your input would be great to..
has anyone ever been able to remain friends with there ex's..
like esp. there first love.. my gf of 3 years just recently broke up wiht me, she was my first for everything, and shes moving on.. but she wants to be friends.. and id like to be friends with her, but i dont want to bring any more pain to myself than i already have from the break up.
I love her so much. i had dated others before but they were more of lustful relationships, should i just move on and let her go.. and if i see her, than say hi.. or should i try and stay friends.. like has this worked for other people.

[sera300]

Remained friends with some men I have been involved with, no issue. One in particular, ex-fiance, stayed friends, chatted etc. At one point we were FWB, worked fine but the emotions were still there & we tried again to split in another 1 1/2 years. Again remained friends (no FWB's) chatted, emailed, etc. He gave out entirely too much info about his upcoming vacation, it desintigrated quickly & no longer speak regularly. I do not need to be a regular part of his life as his male friends are and same in reverse. Friendly terms? Yeap. I know if I needed something (and same for him) either would be there in a heart beat. Stayed friends with an ex-husband as well.

[xmbedir]

anyone else tried or is trying to remain friends with an ex?

[Ephemera]

If you really love her as much as you say, you'd better give yourself some space for a bit.

Just my opinion.

[HardNgood]

There's a reason they are called EX
Now move on!!

[rdan05]

It'll be more trouble then you can imagine...cut your losses.

[Raidenator]

I'm gonna have to advise you to just forget it. For **** little flings it's fine but with a 3 year long relationship, it's just too hard.

In the very least you need to have a good amount of time apart, date other women, etc. before you can ever be friends with her again. For me it usually takes a good few months before I can talk to an Ex like she was just a friend. But again, this hasn't worked with all of my Ex' it's just a situational thing.

In summation, take some time apart and see how you feel.

[Laika]

Originally Posted by xmbedir

anyone else tried or is trying to remain friends with an ex?

My personal rule is that once you stop the relationship, there is ip anymore. maybe aquintances, but once the line is crossed, it's crossed.

My bf tried to be friends with his ex, that was not nice for me at all, but I tolerated it (I trust him and don't see a problem). However, he also admitted it felt strange and not friendly at all every time they met.

[xmbedir]

what about it being your first love, and the same for that person.. like the break up terms aren't bad and what not??
and has anyone been in the situation where the relationship seemed to be done and over with forever, but to have it work out later.. im not getting my hopes up or anything like that..

[sera300]

You have to remember you split for a reason. Too often this is forgot!