Mental issues or natural?

[Yariome]

Ok, I have a really weird situation and I don't know if it's normal or if I really should get it checked out.

I've been with my girl 2 1/2 years we've had our ups and downs like every other relationship. My problem is simple as far as I can see, sometimes i'm the happiest man in the world, and sometime without any triggering, any sad events or anything; i'll just plunge into depression. I'll start to feel like she is cheating on me, like i'm not good enough, like she has feelings for another man so on and so forth. We have been on 3 breaks, every time was really rough times in mine or her life and just needed to be apart because we are pig headed heh. Anyways, during those times she messed around with another guy, never beyond oral on him and just topless making out on her, but none the less. Everytime I plunge into this depression i'm so afraid she is doing this again behind my back..

Now this is pretty frequent that's why I ask, i'll be content for 2-3 days then BAM for a few hours i'm depressed as **** until she clarifies to me, and just remembering what she has said in the past isn't enough. I'm really curious if this is natural or if I have some kind of emotional imbalance? We are very happy now as far as I know, sex life is good, she claims no crushes or anything of the sort which I trust.

And then out of no where like I said, it just comes, i'll also get really jealous of anything, and feel like she deserves so much better. I am very happy so don't say I need another woman this is strictly thoughts in the back of my head that come out of no where, and yes only with her, I NEVER used to be this way well then again I never made it past a week with another woman.. But even still, it just worries me, is this natural or should I seek some kind of theropy/medication?

[sera300]

You are being insecure, there is something going on in your mind which is causing a bit of paranoia. Talk to a counselor to find out the stem to the insecurity, paranoia, and intermittent depression. This will not resolve on it's own.

[Carrina]

I used to be this way till i got on anti-depressates. I would just tell your doc about it and see what she/he says.

[Yariome]

Well see I thought it was just insecurity as well, but the thing is, it's in cycles... One day I can watch her flirt around with a guy like it's nothing, and think nothing more than friendly flirting, and the next i'll be ready to kick his ass.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Yariome

Well see I thought it was just insecurity as well, but the thing is, it's in cycles... One day I can watch her flirt around with a guy like it's nothing, and think nothing more than friendly flirting, and the next i'll be ready to kick his ass.

Insecurity can manifest it's self into cyclical depression. Up & downs are more of a "manic" quality. Trust me I am no psychiatrist but can tell you abnormal behaviors & signals of issues with underlying qualities.

[Yariome]

Ok i'll take your word on that, so any advise on the matter? I don't want to go on medication because i'm too stubborn and hate relying on things like that.

I really hate this about me because i never used to be like this, been cheated on before and honestly shrugged it off, course it wasn't with a girl I had anything more than a sexual attraction to but still.

[sera300]

Just find the cause of the insecurity, meds? No. I do not believe in them unless someone is having difficulty with coping with daily events in life, nearing them being rendered useless. Does not sound like you are anywhere near there.

The insecurity and jealousy is being brought on by something with in you, perhaps it's just a self-esteem issue. The longer it's not dealt with the worse the behavior and the more symptoms manifest. Just see a counselor, not even a psychiatrist.

[Yariome]

Well like I said it just randomly started after we got together, and little things like the messing around with other guys got to me, but I forgave those. Yes I do have a small self-esteem problem because I used to be built but had to have surgery and my ribs broken open to get part of a blade out. Ever since then I havn't been able to retain even the slightest figure I used to, because one the inspiration just isn't there, and two became lazy after having to rest for so long.

[sera300]

The decrease in physical activity can cause bouts & changes in self-image can cause another issue.

[Yariome]

Right, and about the counceler thing, i'm willing to try that but only as a last resort... I'm too stubborn and don't like asking help, to someone I will actually meet that is.