Wife's Sexual Habits

[Engage!]

I'm not really sure if this is normal or not, but I think my wife might be using sexual pleasure like a drug, in order to feel better. She and I have sex almost every day. Then, this afternoon, I came home alot earlier than usual and I found her doing something very strange. I entered the apartment quietly because she takes naps in the afternoon, and so she didn't know I was around. I heard her moaning in the bedroom, and when I peeked in, she was lying face down on the bed with her legs spread. I have a small high-intensity flashlight that I sometimes use for security work, and the bulb puts out alot of heat. I discovered that she had that flashlight pointed between her legs.

I didn't know how she'd react to me walking in on her, so I sat down in the living room and waited for her to finish. I could tell when she had an orgasm because of the louder moans and heavier breathing, and I found that she had several orgasms. Forty-five minutes later, she stopped, and so I figured it was over with.

I'm unsure if this was just a one-time thing, or if she does this regularly. It doesn't seem to affect the quality of our sex life, but maybe I just don't have the energy to give her the high amount of attention she seems to need. What's up with this? And better yet, why does my tactical flashlight seem to be her favorite sex toy?

[sera300]

Uhmmm, maybe her hormones are taking over? As far as the device, maybe you could get her a PR-22 or PR-24 the ones cops use? If she is into the heat form the flashlight, a 2 million watt candlepowered flashlight might be good too.

Seriously, have you ever asked her if she masturbates? Maybe she likes your gadgets? Wait a few days and ask her what's going on.

Ps. I hope she prepared you a very nice dinner and put it on the table with a big smile. She HAS to get out of the house. You are busting your butt working, catering, and she is sleeping all day, late, and this?

[demonbuttercup]

Hmmm I don't know what to make of this one either.
At first, when you said flashlight... I thought you were going to say that she was using it as a dildo or something....but not for the heat. I guess that could work.. maybe the heat increases blood flow..therefore sensitivity?!?

So what did she do/say when she came out of the bedroom and you were sitting in the livingroom? Did she seem surprised or embarrassed? Or say "how long have you been here?"
I mean she had to have known you knew... b/c I would imagine usually when you get home.. you go directly to tell her hello or something.

[curious_woman]

Masturbation is totally normal and healthy, even in a relationship, I wouldn't worry. As far as her using the flashlight...all women have odd toys I used to use a hairbrush handle haha! Tell her to try the shower head if its movable, or to sit under the bathtub tap if she likes the warmth .

[Engage!]

A PR-24 is a baton, not a flashlight, although belt holders for them also hold flashlights (yeah, I know, nitpicky security goon....)

As for flashlights, the one she's using is fairly small, and produces 250 lumens. It makes ALOT of heat. Unfortunately, the batteries are pretty expensive, and they last for only a short time. I'm not really sure how often she uses the flashlight, or exactly how she uses it. The flashlight has a special crenillated (sp) bezel (mainly used by Department of Corrections to hit unruly prisoners with), but maybe she uses it for extra stimulation?

I'm not sure if she knows I know or not. We didn't say anything about it, and when I thought she was done I went into the bedroom and greeted her. She was dressing at that point, and what she'd been doing wasn't really obvious.

And no, she didn't cook dinner, although she does alot of the time. I am wondering, though, if she spends her day doing stuff around the apartment or is in bed touching herself for hours.....

[sera300]

I know what the PR's are & why they are used, LOL. They can provide fun at home too! I was married for a long time to a cop.

If you noticed the flashlight was moved, ask her why...And the 2/m candle watts are chargeable in the outlets!

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by Engage!

I'm not really sure if this is normal or not, but I think my wife might be using sexual pleasure like a drug, in order to feel better. She and I have sex almost every day. Then, this afternoon, I came home alot earlier than usual and I found her doing something very strange. I entered the apartment quietly because she takes naps in the afternoon, and so she didn't know I was around. I heard her moaning in the bedroom, and when I peeked in, she was lying face down on the bed with her legs spread. I have a small high-intensity flashlight that I sometimes use for security work, and the bulb puts out alot of heat. I discovered that she had that flashlight pointed between her legs.

I didn't know how she'd react to me walking in on her, so I sat down in the living room and waited for her to finish. I could tell when she had an orgasm because of the louder moans and heavier breathing, and I found that she had several orgasms. Forty-five minutes later, she stopped, and so I figured it was over with.

I'm unsure if this was just a one-time thing, or if she does this regularly. It doesn't seem to affect the quality of our sex life, but maybe I just don't have the energy to give her the high amount of attention she seems to need. What's up with this? And better yet, why does my tactical flashlight seem to be her favorite sex toy?

This whole story HAS to be a JOKE!!!..everything i've read has been so phucked up that I can hardly believe any of it up to this point!! and now you add this thread??? you and your S/O need so much SERIOUS counselling that it isn't even FUNNY ANYMORE!!..do us all a favor and get some SERIOUS counselling and DON"T COME BACK until you have a grip on your lives!!! This has to be the MOST pathetic postings and threads I've seen on here since BRUINS was doing her thing on here and somehow has mysteriously disappeared...which I hope would happen to YOU (ENGAGE) and your misguided "bride"!!..I do have empathy, but I don't tolerate STUPIDITY!! and you are at the TOP OF THE CLASS !! now go do the right thing!!

[demonbuttercup]

Yeah or one day you'll go in to use the flashlight...and the battery will be almost dead. You'll be like.. hmm I thought I just replaced those lol.

I agree that masturbation is normal/healthy even in relationships... I do it :P

That is a good question about how she spends her day lol.
I mean if I chose to masturbate.. it's like a 2 min deal... grab my vibe right before bed...done... off to sleep lol.
It's not really something I do and make a big production...as in setting a mood or doing it for 45min! plus who knows how long she was doing it before you got home! lol
I have read on here tho some women do go through a whole deal of lighting candles and setting a mood... so I guess everyone is different.

[littlechicky]

I'm starting to feel a bit like HNG...I don't get all the strange posts and the frequency. Alot of it is quite out there.

[Engage!]

HardNgood - "phucked up". I like your word choice. however, I don't get exactly what you deem "Stupidity". For everyone's sake, start limiting your use of capital letters, and place quotations where they make sense. (Okay, my little rant is over now....) And, as my mother always told me, since everyone is entitled to their POV and I don't have much nice to say about yours, I won't say anything further. We seem to be at odds on everything.