lost my libido

[brit_pike]

i dont know why but i have been married for only a year and a half and i am 19 yrs old but i hate havin sex it is such a chore i cant stand it and its not that my husband does not please me i just dont know what it is but it sucks and i am so ready to want to have sex again i try to make my self but it is not workin

[sera300]

If you had a normal libido, you have to look for either a psychological cause (stress, lack of sleep, marital issues) or physical causes (medications, BCP's, hormonal problems). When in a new relationship, it's normal to want to go at it like rabbits and that subsides but it should not become absent.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Go see your doctor - ASAP!

[brit_pike]

maybe its like you said just being stressed and tired cause we have a 9 month old baby and i work full time plus do all the house work

[Brandye]

We would all be amazed at how many women are in this situation - and how many sexless marriages there are among 30-somethings. That is where you are headed.

You two are going to need some real help. It is doubtful that the sex has led you to this condition, especially if you enjoyed sex previously, but the entire relationship is seriously out of whack. A counselor is indicated -not just a sex counselor, but a marriage counselor to look at the bigger picture.

A young patient of mine expressed almost identical feelings. She ran into an old flame, got her bell rung and that was the end of the marriage, even though she has not remarried.

[Engage!]

Take it from a married and stressed man -- lack of sleep and overwork really lowers the libido. When you are better rested, you will feel better. A marital counselor might help, too, but realize that your lack of interest in sex comes from being tired.