Starting to hate SEX

[pootasia]

This month on the 14th will be 4 years the me and my husband have been married. He does'nt talk about sex and he always calm in about 3 to 5 mins.Last night i suggested that we make a sexual board game, so i asked what his sexual preferences are and he either said the he doesnt know or that he doesn't have any.He started having sex at a very young age and has been with many women before he got married. We only do one position(doggy-style).we do not kiss or engage in forplay. He says that we don't do alot of things because we have kids and i feel as though he uses them as an excuse.What should i do? I really feel like cheating on him,because i feel like i should not have to settle for less than he gave any other woman.I really need advice on this!!::

[sera300]

And for four years of marriage you have only done doggie style & had no foreplay? And the same prior to you getting married it was the same? I would let him know you are not sexually satisfied with your sex life & you want more. Get some books, look thorough them together (try "The Joy of Sex") and find some various interests. If he refuses, think long & hard about spending the remainder of your life this way. I would be long beyond starting to hate sex with him, I'd be off on my own.

[Engage!]

A lack of sex is no reason to dump your husband, but you need to open your mouth and say something. Talking is the key. Either he has no energy, is disinterested, or is scared. I don't believe that nothing will turn this man on. Everyone has something, so try a few things and find it. If he loves you and you are really distressed about this, he will work to make you happy. If he doesn't, get a counselor.

[pootasia]

He does not engage in anything new. He want even give me oral sex and i have given it to him in the past. When we were dating it was good, we did different positions.Now its quick and boring.He dont even talk about sex,which is weird considering all the women he has been with in the past, and he even told me that him and his friends have even took turns having sex with the same girl.This is not a man who is scared nor shy.

[sera300]

Look in to is the lack of sexual interest psychological or physical. Or is he spending time with another?

[pootasia]

Part of me thinks that since he has had all his fun in his single life, he just doesn't care anymore.I am starting to develope bad feelings towards him and i know that this sort of thing is not good in a marriage.My friend told me that he has slept with to many women and now his penis isn't any good.I will try and talk to him again.but if he doesn't respond to me , i don't what to do.

[sera300]

Past sexual partners do not play a role in his behavior...men do not run out of steam! If anything, he should be more adventurous with you.

[cyclefreak]

Only one position, and no kissing or foreplay? That ain't right. Sounds like something is seriously wrong here. Nothing wrong with doggy style, but if that's the only position he wants, and also the fact that he doesn't kiss, sounds like there is really no connection between the two of you. He is only having sex that way for the physical release. I think you need to talk to him about this, if you haven't done so already.

(Personally, I don't understand guys who don't like kissing - I love kissing, I think it is wonderful.)

[Dan22]

I don't know how it is outside of sex on a non-sexual daily basis for yall two (POOTASIA) but from what you said about sex I would be wondering if there was someone else because that might explain some things

[EvilEvilKitten]

He's not shy or scared and yet his sex is so completely inpersonal? Come on - there has got to be more to this story! Instead of talking or waiting for him to change, I suggest you just take charge - begin with foreplay, move onto outcourse and then ride him cowgirl until the man's gasping for breath!

As for lack of sex being a reason to leave your husband - YES it is.
Remember "bed and board"? What did you think that expression meant?