What 2 Do

[Lyon]

Hay all listen little help required, me n my g/f have had a massive argument long story short her gran passed away and I was like tryn 2 b there for her but I was over the top and actually giving her hassel I was like 'wud u like 2 go out 2nite to take ur mind of it' and she was like 'NO!! of course i f***ing dnt' then it wud escelate I would be trying to explain things and calm things but that annoyed her more, anyway we had a cuple of these type of arguments. We were talking the other nite and she sed dat i really hurt her and made her unhappy and dat she cudnt believe how the 1 time she really needed me 2 do wat she asked and back of, i cudnt do it. She said she wernt sure who i was anymore and how she was having doubts. Me and my g/f have bin together 7 months shes 23 im 21 and i know its old fashioned but i really want this 2 work with her and 2 hear her say I made her unhappy really shocked me. What i wanna know is shall i go all out now 2 try and show her how much she means 2 me and how sorry i am 4 hurtning her or shall i give her some space, i mean her gran only died like 10 days ago. My heads i n pieces so Any help any body can offer i wud b greatlly apprecitate it. Thanx

[sera300]

Just let her be for a while, if she needs you or reaches out for you, just listen. Let her talk & don't try to "fix" it for her, you cannot make her hurt less. Part of death is grieving and many times people get angry over the death and take it out at those they love. Just listen, be supportive and give her space. If she wants to talk about it let her, if she just wants to cry, let her and hold her.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Just go over, and give her a big bear hug and do not say anything at all. But do not let her go. Just hold on to her firmly and she'll cry on your shoulder and all will be well. Just remember - shut-up. When she stops crying then you let her go and very quietly say "I'm sorry, darling." Then shut up some more.

[Brandye]

Step one towards getting help in this world is making it easy for someone to help. Your pidgin langauage is difficult to decipher for one who is not versed in modern teeny shorthand. Try English. Or even Welsh would be an improvement but not many would understand.