What do I do?

[PerfectStance]

The girlfriend has turned into a lazy lover.We've been dating a couple years and we're in our mid 20s. What used to be a really awesome sex life has become dull. She'll gladly receive foreplay,etc., but won't return the favor. recently she has become reluctant to even change positions to anything besides missionary. Its becoming frustrating and boring as hell.I don't know how to handle bringing it up.Suggestions anyone?

[Brandye]

"I want to talk about our changing sexual behaviour."

[rdan05]

Tell her how you feel that sex was once great and now it's just routine. Tell her you are bored with the current old routine. See if it's something which is bothering her.

[PerfectStance]

I tried to bring it up, she rolled her eyes and became annoyed we were even talking about it.she gave "I was tired" among other excuses.

[sera300]

I guess there is your answer, there is no point in talking when someone will not listen.

[gehai]

Im going threw the same sh*t! and im in my late 20's!
I have told my girlfriend over and over about this issue but no change!
We have a child so i dont wanna leave her because of this but...ladies this is how most men start "cheating" or rather "Going somewhere else for there needs!".

Its very frustrating! Especially if you are a man and have the balls to tell your woman straight up how you feel!

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, it is not "normal" - there's something wrong somewhere. But if she does not recognise it as a problem, and a serious problem, she's not going to change her behavior. If she rolls her eyes and gets upset about even discussing it then you are permitted to play "you get what you give'. What you should NOT do is to accept her unilateral decisions on a subject that impacts you both. Tell her you're too tired. Go out with the boys. Turn her down when she wants it. Whatever. Do not harp on the issue but don't let it die either. Just calmly say - you get what you give. Then go back to Brandye's statement, which is perfect btw, and try again.

[wellmannered_squirrel]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

No, it is not "normal" - there's something wrong somewhere. But if she does not recognise it as a problem, and a serious problem, she's not going to change her behavior. If she rolls her eyes and gets upset about even discussing it then you are permitted to play "you get what you give'. What you should NOT do is to accept her unilateral decisions on a subject that impacts you both. Tell her you're too tired. Go out with the boys. Turn her down when she wants it. Whatever. Do not harp on the issue but don't let it die either. Just calmly say - you get what you give. Then go back to Brandye's statement, which is perfect btw, and try again.

This would be the application of Tit for tat http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tit_for_tat
(its a good read for people who don't know about game theory)

The only downside to the application of such a strategy on one's love life is that it doesn't not take in consideration that sex is a need. Playing by the selfish partner's rules can be really frustrating overtime.

[Alchemist911]

Sometimes the "Tit for Tat" game is needed!
Often people need a dose of there own medicine before they see what they have done!

I see do what EvilEvilKitten suggest! Go get satisfaction elsewhere and when she is ready for it..turn her ass down with the same lame excuse she gives you. She wont even beleive you have the balls to say "your tired". Then she'll be trippin out thinking someone else is handling the buisness she should! and if that doesnt work...well..send her packing and find someone else who will make you happy

[EvilEvilKitten]

You really should be looking for a person with a sex drive that matches your own. You should also consider sexual attitudes when choosing your partner - sex is good/bad, that kind of thing. While her drive may change over time, the fundamental attitude most likely won't.

Generally women who enjoy sex, will make time, and find the energy, for it.