A Mans sex drive or lack there of!

[MsRaeKelley]

Okay so my boyfriend and I have been in a open-minded long distance relationship for almost 5 yrs now. Basically meaning that until recently, we did what we want with who we want because of our long distance status. We kept are sexual relations with others to a minimum with frequent visits from one another aiding. Anyways the problem I am having is One his sex drive for being 24 basically is horrid. His sex drive is a lack there of really. And mine at 19 is high.I myself would love to have sex everyday if not twice a day. These days I take what I can get from him. Now that we are living together I first expected high sex drives on both parts. But it seems i am alone in that department. My second problem is when we do have sex its amazing typically,but brief. Okay the truth is the sex is EXTREMELY BRIEF!! Never lately making it to the 10 minute mark. Our first sexual anything lasted 20-30 minutes atleast! and now we are experiencing nothing like that anymore! Can anyone offer any advice or opinions or idea! on how i can change these things in our relationship? I am rediculously in love with this man. And will do anything to make our sex life better,longer and our lives together better and forever! I am adventuroous and I am always willing to try new positions I'm willing to do what it takes to save our relationship on all levels! Please! Can anyone help me??

[suckingondiamonds]

Don't give up! It's obvious you're in love if you're willing to try so hard! Have you tried watching porn together? Letting him watch you masterbate? I'm sorry I'm not much help, but maybe try to surprise him.

When he's in town and go out to dinner, don't wear panties under your skirt, lead his hand there, heheh. If that doesn't get him going I don't know what will!

Good luck!

[Sustayned]

This would be very hard to pinpoint. You didn't say, but has his libido always been this low? I mean you had no opportunity to know that if you had a long distance relationship. Do you know whether or not he had many sexual relations while you two were not together?
It's true, at 24 his drive should be stronger, but not necessarily. I was married at 21, at 23 we bought our first house which really bogged me down as far as having all that responsibility. I made very good money and we could easily afford it, but still, that load for the first time seemed to dampen most of the thirst I had for sex.
But..at 30 years old -and you might pay particular attention to this - my wife (who has always had a very strong libido and is a very imaginative lover) started expanding our sexual wingspan (Hitachi, bought some high end porn movies, just in general got naughtier) and it was her driving the bus. It snapped me out of it and ever since I've had a very strong libido and I still have fantasies and dreams about my wife whom I still lust over. But you see? That was almost 7 years of low sex drive for me, yet I snapped out of it.
So you might try to kick it up a notch as far as staying away from the ordinary and spice it up just a little or more.
The down side of this is that if you try to shift into a higher gear and he still doesn't respond, you won't know until you've wasted a lot of time with him whether or not he'll ever have a higher sex drive. Like someone said, normal is what it is with that person.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Have you tried body worship, stroking the bones, and other 'no toys needed' techniques of caressing, nuzzling, licking etc and so forth? If all you two are doing is just coitus, he may be bored out of his mind.

Talk to him!