how to get my man to treat me like his woman....

[suckingondiamonds]

okay, i really love bdsm, and i'm admittedly a very bossy girlfriend i get angry i have a temper, etc...

my boyfriend and i are great together though, he's the first person who doesn't let me get away with acting like a princess.

i love to be dominated in bed, but he's so afraid of hurting me or seeming too mean that he won't! his domination extends only to tying my wrists with scarves and spanking me. i want him to pull out the whips and chains!

i've even tried getting him angry, during sex once i told him i masturbated to this guy i work with, it made him angry and he got really into it and it was so wild! but i don't want to have to make him genuinely angry everytime i want a little smacky smacky.

i think there are a few reasons 1)he doesn't want to hurt me (he's told me that) 2)he loves it when i play mistress 3)he's a suuuper nice guy and just doesn't have it in him

please help me get my boyfriend to tie me up and rock my world!

[Brandye]

You are really into this. He is not. You have some decisions to make.

[suckingondiamonds]

but is it really fair that i have to play mistress with him, when he won't return the favor?

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by suckingondiamonds

but is it really fair that i have to play mistress with him, when he won't return the favor?

Well well...while you are playing HIS MISTRESS...tell him that you are pregnant(and you are sure it ISN"T HIS), you are going to tell his wife,you need MORE MONEY and your going to SPILL THE BEANS in the newspaper...if that doesn't get you "roughed up" I have NO CLUE how to help you!!

[Brandye]

I did not mention fairness; I said you have decisions to make.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Bossy, angry, and has a temper - you need to fix all of that. Gowing up would help.
You might have to find a real live dom and submit to him rather than your current boyfriend who does not seem to be into it. I caution you to be very, VERY careful - you are risking your life here. It is often better to just retain the fantasy of whips and chains than to suffer the reality and be injured or die for it.

[suckingondiamonds]

I resent this, why jump to those extremes? Getting killed? I'm sorry, but I've seen and heard of many an S and M moment and rarely does anyone get killed. Plus, I just used "whips and chains" as an expression, an expression commonly used to describe S and M.

[Kbests2003]

Guys who really want to dominate, may accidentally hurt you when all they want is a good time.. but not trouble. It's like a 5 year old... you tell him to stop.. but he doesn't.. keeps going, going and totally ignores. Sometimes he will even do the exact opposite to prove he is independant. This is just an example of someone who loses control. The circumstances are different..

While I doubt you would be killed... someone who really wants to "dominate" a women would not be my friend.. because it sounds wrong IMO. I might tie up my women... but probably nothing more than that.. might even leet her tie me up.. never would I whip her... or do anything that could accidentally harm her...anything worse than a nose bleed and I would feel horrible with my self.

I understand your BF and I understand your desires... but maybe it's not realistic with your current BF.

[suckingondiamonds]

thanks, i understand what you mean, and he's said the same thing time after time "i don't want to hurt you" i guess I was just really horny and crazy at the time of writing that. meh, i guess i'll get used to it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You have heard. I have done for more than a few years. Frankly, I do what you are afraid to even fantasize about. No, it is not just an expression. It is the reality. Safe words are not just for fun.