Masturbation without touching

[gierrmo]

My wife and I have been married for 8 years. I just found out last year that she has the unique ability to masturbate by simply crossing her legs and squeezing really hard and concentrating. She has done this since highschool and has really intense orgasms. She can do it at work behind her desk when noone is in the room. It amazes me, but she feels guilty about it. And she won't do it in front of me. She will not touch herself to masturbate and doen't like the thought of self pleasure at all.
During intercource she almost always has an orgasm. She rarely lets me go down on her but she seems to really enjoy it when I do. In the past she hasn't wanted me to stimulate her with my hand, but she is liking it more and more.
The orgasms she has during intercorse without clittoral manual stimulation are fair, and dont' last long. When I manually stimulate her during sex they are much better, but the other night she had the best one of all. She said it was just like the ones she has during self pleasure.

I have tried to find her g-spot in the past but have never had any luck. But 4 nights ago it was just as described in the literature and she had an amazing orgasm then went on to have another during intercourse as well. I believe the key was that I had her very hot from breast play and clitoral stimulation before ever lookin for the g-spot. She told me she will surely want more of that in the future.

My questions are this. Is this something I can regularly repeat and can I do it with my penis instead of fingers? Also how is it possible for her to please herself with just the preasure of her legs? It's amazing and I haven't found much written on it. I just wish she were less self concious and more comfortable being the amazing sexual being she is.

[sera300]

You can get the g-spot stimulated with the head of your penis but it takes some positioning work from both partners. I find it easiest in missionary but with my legs more down then up and I have to tilt my pelvis down a bit. If I am on top I can usually move to a position where it's hitting it. It takes time, and the more aroused the better.

As far as her ability to have her "own party" in the office, I cannot answer that one! Unless she is crossing her legs, applying pressure with her labia to stimulate the clitoris. I hope she has her own office!

[gierrmo]

Originally Posted by sera300

You can get the g-spot stimulated with the head of your penis but it takes some positioning work from both partners. I find it easiest in missionary but with my legs more down then up and I have to tilt my pelvis down a bit. If I am on top I can usually move to a position where it's hitting it. It takes time, and the more aroused the better.

As far as her ability to have her "own party" in the office, I cannot answer that one! Unless she is crossing her legs, applying pressure with her labia to stimulate the clitoris. I hope she has her own office!

It seems like to me that the woman tilting down in the missionary position would direct the head of the penis toward the posterior wall or back wall of the vagina? Or am I just confused?

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gierrmo

It seems like to me that the woman tilting down in the missionary position would direct the head of the penis toward the posterior wall or back wall of the vagina? Or am I just confused?

If she is tilting down she should be placing more pressure against you with the anterior wall...I do it sort of like a mini abdominal crunch...and also squeeze around his penis, through tightening like a kegel...sounds complicated but it's really easy.

[gierrmo]

Originally Posted by sera300

If she is tilting down she should be placing more pressure against you with the anterior wall...I do it sort of like a mini abdominal crunch...and also squeeze around his penis, through tightening like a kegel...sounds complicated but it's really easy.

Thanks so much for the imformation. What other positions work well for stimulaton?

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gierrmo

Thanks so much for the imformation. What other positions work well for stimulaton?

I find being on top works too but I have to scoot back so his penis is closer to the front wall rather then deep hard penetration....but again that's just me! Some women swear with the legs up works wonders...does nothing for me! Experiment!

[gierrmo]

What are some ways I can make her more comfortable with me going down on her? She doesn't mind doing it for me and she really seams to enjoy it when I do for her, it's just getting her to let me. She is becoming more adventurous though.

[Brandye]

Back to the question of masturbation without touching: The first orgasm I ever experienced, at 13, was rocking on a menstrual pad. I did repeat that, sometimes in "public." Though I have not recently, I do once in a while use a firm pillow (stuffed toys when I was a teen) between my legs to reach orgasm. I have known other women who do similar.

[gierrmo]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Back to the question of masturbation without touching: The first orgasm I ever experienced, at 13, was rocking on a menstrual pad. I did repeat that, sometimes in "public." Though I have not recently, I do once in a while use a firm pillow (stuffed toys when I was a teen) between my legs to reach orgasm. I have known other women who do similar.

That's so unfare that you all can do it so indescrete. So it only takes firm rocking preasure for some women to reach orgasm? I just figured it would take a little more direct clitoral stimulation rather than just constant preasure through the labia. So when I'm stimulating her with my hand do you think more constant preasure over the whole area will give her similar sensations? thanks

[Brandye]

Yes, we can be discrete. I have finished myself laying beside a partner without their knowing. It only takes slight movement of a couple fingers in that position.

I have no idea how many women regularly do what your wife does with her thighs. I only respond to say yes, some of us do and pressure over a wider area works. "Direct clitoral stimulation" is a term not understood by many men. We do get tired of having our clitoris' pummeled by men who really think they know what they are doing. You have to learn to read her response. Women are so much better at this in my experience.