Teen relationship issues

[anonymous1432]

Hey everyone, hows it goin.

Im sure that something along the lines of what im about to write has been posted before, however there is an issue that i need some help with.

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 11 months now (im not sure if u could call that a long term relationship ) and we both love each other very much (both 16 yrs old).

Now ive had several minor and relatively short lived relationships before she came along however i still consider her my first 'real' girlfriend and shes easily so far the best girl ive had. I enjoy the time i spend with her.

Now, my issue is that over the past few months the love that was once huge an endless etc has dwindled a little bit and now i know i dont feel exactly the same way about her as she does for me. This could be due to a few reasons, but i personally know that its just me getting over the whole thing and wanting to try new things, go out and see and have sex with other people. After all, im a 16 year old boy

Its really difficult tho because what we have is really special and i dont want to make the wrong decision by just throwing that away for what might be a stupid or not-well thought out decision. Every time i think of this, and even every time we argue (which is only rarely) i cant help but think "what if theres someone better out there?" u know? Im sorry if most of this isnt making too much sense, but thers a lot of words going on in my head that i cant quite thread into a sentence here.

SO basically i just want some advice here, if im thinking these things already, am i just wasting mine and hers time? Argh, im so split between what i want here .

Any help or thoughts at all by anyone would be very much appreciated. Thanks

[tmps]

well my b/f went through that stage and he is 18, so everboy goes through it, i offered things to him like giving him a pass, 3some, a break and he turned them down coz he loves me and doesnt want to lose me, so it really depends on whether you truly love her, if you do then these feelings will go away....
eventually

[sera300]

Tell her very nicely, then go out and date the world. Date as many women as you can, learn what you like in a person, it will only make you better in the long run. As Doc said "Sample all humanity has to offer".

Have some fun doing this. There is plenty of time later in life for commitment, trust me!

[EvilEvilKitten]

I agree with Sera! Now is the time for you to sport date and explore!
Be nice about it but it is time for you both to move on.

[Say Hey]

I agree with the others...you need too to enjoy dating at this age and not get caught up in long term relationships. I know I would have given my left foot to have relationships when I was 16...other than with myself LOL

[Orow]

It's better that you are honest now and take responsability for your feelings than you end up cheating on her because you couldn't resist.

May I compliment you btw for beeing a bright young man who thinks about things before doing something that might be stupid - it's very mature, I think.

[tikteka57]

a line my best friend (which is 8 years older than i) when i was saying the same things like "there are so many women out there" and things like that. btw we are having sex im older than you

he told me that if my gf is doing everything sexually for me, which she was. and if i could see myself being with her for a long time than looking and fantazing about other women is JUST LUST. All of those thoughts are just lust. there are women out there that might be better a sex and better at other stuff but your taking the chance that you will never find a women that does what she does. My gf does anything i could ever ask a women to do, both sexually and with other things to.

Just make sure you really think it over!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Not that there's anything wrong with lust.

[gierrmo]

How can someone sit there and say there and say that lust is wrong but pre-marital or extra-marital sexual relationships are fine. That makes no sense whatsoever. The boy is not bound to the girl by anything, they are not married and do not share that covenent.

Let your heart and reason tell you what to do.

Personally I am against all of the above, but that's not the point. (Biblicaly all three are sin. Lust of the flesh and sexual sins are one in the same)

I am not trying to start a religious sex debate here I am just saying one cannot state that lust is wrong but the others are not.

[EvilEvilKitten]

There isn't anything wrong with any of them per se. As long as one is not betraying anyone, all is well.