sex after children

[spider123]

Ive been with my boyfriend for 14 months and we have a 7 week old son together. We are very happy together but Im worried about how enjoyable sex is for him now. To me, during sex now it feels alot looser, I knew it was going to be looser but it feels quite alot looser. I dont mind as for some reason Im alot more sensitive there now that I was so I enjoy it the same if not more, but I cant see how he can enjoy it if its loose?
Basically Im asking what the men on here thought about sex after there partner had had a baby. Ive asked him and he said its looser but hardly any different that what it was, but to me it feels alot looser so I dont think hes telling the truth 'cos he doesnt want to upset me by saying that it is, if that makes sense...
So did you find sex just as enjoyable after having a baby as you did before?
Also what do you/did you think of the stretch marks left on the stomach? Im paranoid of mine and dont think he will want to see me naked now that I have the stretch marks...

[Brandye]

Believe him! You have been stretched a bit and it will take longer than seven weeks to get the muscle tone back. So start Kegel exercises and general physical conditiong.

And what we women may perceive as loose or tight may be less than noticeable to our partners. We tend to perseverate on every little imperfection of our bodies.

[sera300]

If it's not bothering him, don't sweat it, stop doubting yourself. He is probably so happy you are sexually receptive just after having a child! Many times posters complain about the exact opposite--lack of sexual desire after childbirth.

Do the Kegels as Brandye describes, that will help. In fact all women (regardless of age) should really do them, it will only benefit a woman's health in the long run.

Here is a link about the benefits; both men & women should read it.
http://www.veryprivate.com/advicepag...fitskegel.html

[nottooblushing]

(I have not had a baby yet so this is baseless opinion. But this is the internet and I'm allowed to say it anyway.)

Frankly, I feel strongly that the changes to the woman's body are gorgeous. The body changes from birth until death and what is beautiful changes depending on where in that journey you are. What is beautiful for a 13 year old girl is not what is beautiful for a woman who has allowed a life to be nurtured and grown within her. You brought a life into the world with this man and he seems to appreciate that you have passed into a new phase of your journey and finds you sexy and beautiful in a new way.

Be Happy!

[Lovemonkey]

I have a 1 1/2 year old. things did get a bit looser, still feels good, our sex life is still just as good. It definatly is harder to find times to go have our fun. Like afternoon nap times, and late night fun. no more spontanious stuff. i would say it took about a year or so after my wife gave birth that she started to get "tight" again. There definatly is a deeper emotional connection with my wife after the baby was born, that sorta made everything else trivial when it comes to the physical side of things, IE: i did not care if she was a bit looser, as long as she was feeling good.
sorry if this does not make sense, im goin on about two hours sleep from last nights work strech.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Had two kids, youngest now 20 almost 21, and I'm tight - again. Do your Kegels and all will be well. BTW most men are so happy to be near a willing woman that they aren't going to complain if that woman's not perfect.

[McKay]

My wife had three (3) pregnancy and she still feels great when I'm inside her. Do your kegel exercise, tone back your body after preganacy and you will find that he is still crazy over you.

[Carrina]

I have had 2 children with my husband and Im always sooo tight.. He has to work to get her soaked before he can get him self in there.