I dont know what to do anymore.....

[Dani86]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years- in august offcially. He loves oral sex, and when we are having sex, I LOVE to give it to him, I wll also do it when im not really feeling like it- to please him. however our sex life has slowed down, and I want to have sex less, he still wants sex more often. I am willing to oblige, but it is often not as enjoyable because I feel like im being forced. Im worried that we arent sexually compatible. I used to want it all the time, now I dont want him to touch me sometimes, when in the past all he had to do was touch me and I was ready to go..

Secondly, he wants oral sex on demand. I started out trying to do it every time, but its getting to the point where I just dont want to!- it was almost every night, but I started saying no, and just being honest and saying I dont feel like it.Is this wrong? Then sometimes he will try to force me, guilt me into it- he wont give up he gets really upset when I dont want to do it, and I end up upset and unable to sleep some nights. Its degrading and I know he does it to feel in control. at this point it feels like a chore and Im starting to HATE it! I used to love it because when I did it before I wanted to please him. but now i just feel like thats all I ever do and hes just trying to get off.. its no longer an act of love for me- theres nothing special about it- and thats what I liked about it before... Im really worried, and I dont know what to do. I fear that I've bought this all on myself..

[Ratach]

If he is treating you like that, then you need to leave. If he is just using you for a nut, throw a bottle of lotion his way and tell him to use his hand. He should not be forcing you to do ANYTHING. It should be your choice if you want to do something or not.

>I fear that I've bought this all on myself..

NO, NO, NO! You did nothing to deserve the equivalent of emotional rape. LEAVE HIM! If that is the way he is going to treat you, you need to get out of that relationship as soon as possible.

[sera300]

It's time to get over the pity party, pack a bag and walk. And do not return.

[Say Hey]

I would say it is time to hit the road. It sounds like he is trying to control you and sex. Sex should be a mutual pleasurable thing not one sided and never should it be demanded!

[cjb1981]

Yea, get the hell out of there, you don't need that crap.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Calm down. You want sex less because he's demanding it now. The honeymoon is long over and it isn't your fault. People tend to get lazy in their relationships over time. You can try to fix this, but he doesn't seem to be a very open-minded guy. I'd have to agree - Drop him!