Clingy!

[mishsa]

so ive been in this relationship for about 5months ok, i think im being too clingy.
how can i just stop. he says he likes clingy but last night we hung out and i wantd to make out with him and he just kinda ignored me. I asked him if he still finds me attractive and he said of course, dont ask stupid questions.

so anyway. i feel like i need to be clingy to keep him around. im sooo scared to lose him to another girl. Im soooo insecure about him just leaving me. he tells me he loves me more than anything. so i shouldnt be worried.
How do i stop being so clingy and almost annoying. Im noticing it more than he is.



help?

[sera300]

Just be confident in yourself. If he is going to end it he will but being needy will force him further away.

[demonbuttercup]

Is this the same guy you've been having issues w/???
Seems like before he was having all the self esteem issues about whether you enjoyed sex or how many people you've slept with.

If you are noticing that you are being clingy.... just think before you act... have self control.

[EvilEvilKitten]

This is what comes when you do this "my one and only" thing with your b/fs. Stop it. There are plenty of guys out there and more than a few will be interested. RELAX.

[LittleFury]

But then some people are rather happy with "my one and only", I know I wouldn't have it any other way.
And mishsa, if you feel that you're being clingy, then make a choice to direct your attention towards something else. Pick up a hobby you could have fun with and that will occupy your time. Don't make him your hobby. Have a life that is your own, and live that life for yourself, not for him. And if you do lose him to some other girl, then good riddance.

[EvilEvilKitten]

"One and only" should delevop naturally and over time and as a precursor to marriage. Before that happens, one should "date" as many as possible. In this way one does not get wrapped so tightly around the axle that you get "clingy" or "needy", and will do anything to "keep him/her". Do you see?