Faking an Orgasm?

[argekay]

Hello to all-
Is there a way to tell if my wife is faking orgasms? When I do oral on her while fingering her, I can definately feel her strong contractions. I know she has had an orgasm. But, when we have intercourse, I can never feel her contractions at all. I asked her if she was faking and she said no, but I am not convinced. Don't all orgasms end with contractions? Any helpful comments or suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!

[sera300]

They might be milder for her with penetration then with oral or manual stimulation.

[Brandye]

We have orgasms where the contractions would break your finger and others that are barely flutters. Sera has good insight above. Additionally, you are not in a perfect position to perceive the contractions when you are in her.

Believe me, if we want to fake them you will never know. Few women do it habitually, however.

[argekay]

Sera-
Thank you for the insight. I can understand how different types of stimulation
result in different orgasm intensity, or none at all. When my wife does oral sex on me, although pleasurable, I cannot have an orgasm. In fact it is not her technique, I have only been able to have 2 orgasms in my life through oral. I don't know why, because I enjoy it, and she does it to me all the time, however for me it is more of a foreplay activity.
Brandye-
I certainly agree that there are different orgasm intensities. I don't understand what you mean when you say I am not in a perfect position to perceive my wifes contractions when we have intercourse. The position she prefers is her on top. That way she can rub her clitoris on my pubic bone while I am inside of her (best control over stimulation for her). However, that said, are you suggesting that the glans or shaft of my penis is less sensitive to contractile pressure than my finger? If so, i disagree. As to the point you made of if women fake them, we would never know, if the hallmark of an orgasm are the contractions, I disagree. That said however, I have been known to occasionally be wrong.

[Brandye]

The strongest contractions are in the anal sphincters. All the muscles get involved but these are really strong muscles and when they squeeze, they really squeeze. Because of their position, you may not feel them contracting.

I have only infrequently faked - mostly to get it over with and get him out of my way. When I have, there have been contractions, writhing, muffled screams, the whole bit. Ever see "When Harry Met Sally?"

[Old Kid]

Originally Posted by Brandye

The strongest contractions are in the anal sphincters. All the muscles get involved but these are really strong muscles and when they squeeze, they really squeeze. Because of their position, you may not feel them contracting.

I have only infrequently faked - mostly to get it over with and get him out of my way. When I have, there have been contractions, writhing, muffled screams, the whole bit. Ever see "When Harry Met Sally?"

haha..yeah, I'll have what she's haveing!

[argekay]

Brandye-
I understand the voluntary contractions of the anal sphincters. Men can do this also. Are the muscles involved in the orgasmic platform contractions in women voluntary or involuntary? It seems to me that the rythem I feel inside my wife's vagina during orgasmic contraction is of a very specific duration, strength and contraction timing. As an aside- why not just say to your partner that you don't feel like having an orgasm, instead of faking one?