Need help to spice up sex life

[crystalnmo]

Boy, I'm glad I found this! So here's the deal. I've been married 6 years, together 8. We have 4 kids, so getting any action at all is a real miracle! My hubby is 9 years older, and I often wonder if that is why we are so different sexually. We have settled in to a routine, I am bored of it and when I try to bring it up, he kinda blows me off. He likes to "make love" and sometimes I just want to be really pounded and f@@k! How do I get him to do this without insulting his manhood? Alos would like to try anal and toys (together), any advice on that would be great Also, I have a problem with swallowing, the thought makes me sick to my stomach. How do I get over it?

[oldkinky]

Here are some things we do:
I love for her to say "I want you to f**k me deep and hard with your big dick".
Mutual masturbation
Watching group sex DVD'S together during sex.
Playing with toys together.
Oral sex
Cumming on her boobs as she rubs the cum all over and talks about hot cum.

[learning]

Ok, not sure the above post helped but thats my view.

Unfortunately the only way to advise someone of your desires, fantasies is to share it, talk about it and discuss it. You say he blows you off when you bring up the subject, what is the setting at these times. Try get to chat about it in a relaxed, stress free and open setting (no chance of kids disturbing you). How old are the kids? Can you get away for "you" time together, a naughty/romantic weekend etc?

On occasion I have had certain "interests" that were not necessarily shared by my wife, it took many discussions and alot of openess to discuss everything, get her position on many things and then enact any agreed apon things.

Is your husband open to view porn/soft porn with you, this could be used as a catalyst to discuss fantasies etc.

[Chino]

I would love to help with this, but I really think you need some women to chime in here with some tried and true methods that have worked for them. I think most guys answering questions on this forum will probably have a bit of trouble relating to your man's low/inhibited (don't mean to put words in your mouth) sex drive. Also, I think the methodology for opening up a male to sexual adventure vs. a female would have to be different based upon (stereotypical), but often innate differences in male vs. female perception of the world around them.

Ladies...hook her up with some suggestions.

[crystalnmo]

Well I have talked to him about it as you guys suggested. It worked! WOW! I think I had some of the best , if not the best sex, twice last night after making it clear what I wanted! Damn, I should have done it sooner!