Introducing Sex toys, problem with hubby cumming too fast

[lookingforspice]

DH and I have been married for 8 years. We have recently tried the addition of sex toys at my request (I have never had an orgasm until the purchase of my first bullet vibe). Once I realized what I was missing, I wanted to have that feeling with my husband. He was reluctant about the whole sex toy thing, but was willing to give it a try. We haven't once been able to make it work. The vibe makes him cum very fast, and I am still left unsatisfied. Any ideas what we can do so that he won't cum so quickly?

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by lookingforspice

DH and I have been married for 8 years. We have recently tried the addition of sex toys at my request (I have never had an orgasm until the purchase of my first bullet vibe). Once I realized what I was missing, I wanted to have that feeling with my husband. He was reluctant about the whole sex toy thing, but was willing to give it a try. We haven't once been able to make it work. The vibe makes him cum very fast, and I am still left unsatisfied. Any ideas what we can do so that he won't cum so quickly?

How about focusing on getting you off first? lots of foreplay,bring the oral, bring the manual stimulation,bring the toys, really focusing on making sure you get off first and then let him penetrate ...there are some great techniques that Dancin'Doc has with regards to PE...take a read thru those..Have fun, don't get too discouraged!

[Brandye]

I have rarely in decades of sexual activity reached orgasm through penetration and thrusting. Probably why I am better satisfied with women as partners. Those men with whom I have had longer relationships, have all been willing to "do me first." I am most receptive immediately after orgasm and we have reached good accommodation. Then it does matter how long they last. In fact, several minutes is all I really want at that point. Hardngood is referring to this and he has a good idea.

[lookingforspice]

I guess is what I am wanting is the feel of my husband in me when I reach orgasm. I just have that craving for him. I feel almost empty when orgasming without him. Is that strange? Another interesting thing I found out... my husband said (and I've noticed) that the only time he feels that big "WOW" is when I am giving him a hand job. It takes him a long time to go when I am doing this for him, so I know he can last a while, so how come he goes so fast when he is penetrating me? Any help?

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by lookingforspice

I guess is what I am wanting is the feel of my husband in me when I reach orgasm. I just have that craving for him. I feel almost empty when orgasming without him. Is that strange? Another interesting thing I found out... my husband said (and I've noticed) that the only time he feels that big "WOW" is when I am giving him a hand job. It takes him a long time to go when I am doing this for him, so I know he can last a while, so how come he goes so fast when he is penetrating me? Any help?

gotta be something subconscious...it's mental..that was something I struggled with(oops not me..one of my friends)..totally mental..if you figure it out, you'll/he'll be okay LOL..could be fear of getting you pregnant etc etc etc

[lookingforspice]

Well, getting pregnant is definately not a worry. I had my tubes tied after giving birth to our last child. If it's a mental thing, I wouldn't have any idea how to go about correcting that.

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by lookingforspice

Well, getting pregnant is definately not a worry. I had my tubes tied after giving birth to our last child. If it's a mental thing, I wouldn't have any idea how to go about correcting that.

Oh man...lucky guy...he can just GO FOR IT !!... my bad