Time Alone, Need Some Help

[ar8890]

Well to get straight to the point which i don't figure will happen since I'm a rambler, my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over six months, here in the last two months or so I have noticed that there has definately been a decrease in the amount of affection she shows me... as in sexual or just the occasional kiss or hug isn't as often anymore. A couple of weeks ago she was reading cosmo and it was talking about a six month or so stage in relationships where girls start to distance themselves from their significant other. Well i thought after reading that and reading all the tips she would start to maybe rebound, noticing that she was in that stage. She refuses to talk about the whole thing by saying there isn't anything wrong and that she just hasn't been in the mood and that it's stupid that I need sexual time that much. Also she refuses to admit there is a problem what-so-ever, by getting angry anytime I wan't to try to talk about it. First thing that came across my mind was stress...she has had alot of stress lately (the last two weeks) since cheerleading tryouts are this week and she's very afraid she won't make it..even though she's awesome and has made it every year. But I sort of dismissed that because its been going on for longer than two weeks. To a point I can see, we haven't had hardly any alone time in the last couple of months..but that used to not stop us and our sneeking around. We haven't had sex in close to two months, and its been close to a month for us doing anything sexual at all. I'm starting to get really concerned, it's taking it's toll on me and the relationship in general since I'm in this moapy type mood 50% of the time. Last night we sort of talked and I asked her if the next time we had some alone time if she would want to do something? She said it would just depend on the mood she was in at the time. Then I got a call from my mom this morning saying they would be going out of town saturday. So since we can have some time alone time then, help me out with some good ideas on a good at home romantic dinner and on the alone time. Anything will be greatly appreciated.

[gazmedic]

Give her space. don't keep asking her whats up. when shes ready too she'll start being affectionate to you again and want attention. its the relationship blues where your just getting over the lust bit and the excitement is dying down and the real love / attachment will either start or never develop.

how old are you btw? only asking as that can be a huge contributor. Someone young like myself always get a bit paranoid as too whether or not your forcing them to settle down. i mean i really like the girl im with at the minute but the dilema i have as shes two years younger and you know she may not want to settle down she may want to experiment a little first.

[ar8890]

Originally Posted by gazmedic

Give her space. don't keep asking her whats up. when shes ready too she'll start being affectionate to you again and want attention. its the relationship blues where your just getting over the lust bit and the excitement is dying down and the real love / attachment will either start or never develop.

how old are you btw? only asking as that can be a huge contributor. Someone young like myself always get a bit paranoid as too whether or not your forcing them to settle down. i mean i really like the girl im with at the minute but the dilema i have as shes two years younger and you know she may not want to settle down she may want to experiment a little first.

I'm 19 shes 16 so there's def a age gap in where our lives are and i understand that...we both have the same plans on how our lives are going to go with each other. I guess it just a road bump that I'm going to have to get over.

[gazmedic]

her hormones will be playing over time so don't worry about it. give her space thats the only thing i can emphasize. as her feeling squashed by you will only make things worse

[ar8890]

Originally Posted by gazmedic

her hormones will be playing over time so don't worry about it. give her space thats the only thing i can emphasize. as her feeling squashed by you will only make things worse

Yea I agree with that ...lately she has been in the time to herself mood.

[dancingdoc2]

This is another case of why it is better to keep sex out of the relationship until much later in life.

No drama
Less stress

[Brandye]

Sixteen is still young for sex and most sixteen year olds do not know what they want from moment to moment - the exception is the boys always want sex.

Many women who become sexually active too young come to a realization that maybe sex is not worth sweating our periods each month. At that point many lose interest and even stop having sex for a while. There is a much greater difference in maturity and life experience between 16 and nineteen than, say, 22 and 25

[ar8890]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Sixteen is still young for sex and most sixteen year olds do not know what they want from moment to moment - the exception is the boys always want sex.

Many women who become sexually active too young come to a realization that maybe sex is not worth sweating our periods each month. At that point many lose interest and even stop having sex for a while. There is a much greater difference in maturity and life experience between 16 and nineteen than, say, 22 and 25

Yes it is young for sex your right...even sticking to other methods tho..anything besides sex doesn't work either. She knows I'm honestly the type guy that would rather mess around than have sex. She used to be the one to initiate in sex that was her fave. Either way it still doesn't make sense on the non-sexual affection.? Thats been going on as long as 2 months also...