Threesome ... pitfalls??

[MeandJ]

A few months ago my wife admitted to me see had a fantasy of two men at the same time. It really turned me on. I eventually talked her into doing it, it did not take much talking. We used a local meeting web site. From the beginning of this adventure I read all I could on the net about this subject, this is how I found this site. We talked about boundries over and over. We decided that she could do what ever she felt comforable with him was ok with me and vise versa. So we did not have many rules to follow I guess. We exchanged about 20-25 emails with the other guy going over every question we had and he had. Now last Friday we rented a nice hotel room and he came over as planned. This may sound crazy but it turned into the best sexual expirience of our lives. It was not rauchy like a porn movie it was like making love. It went on for about six hours, with a few breaks and drinks in between. I read how a threesome can ruin a marriage and believe it could. In our case I think it is going to make us closer. If anyone is thinking about trying it, my advise is do research. Do alot of research and talk it threw, if this is not for you let it go. If it is it can be one of the best things to happen in your sex life. Just wanted to share our expieriance after reading all the posts on this site. We want to do it again in a couple of months hopefully with the same guy. Has anyone who has done this before have any advise for us. Are there any pit falls we can avoid? Thanks

[EvilEvilKitten]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Hopefully you two can develop a wonderful relationship with this fellow. Only time will tell. The only pitfalls you have thus far avoided mainly by choosing the right extra man. It is so important to always choose the right man for these adventures. After all, you are sharing your lady - the most important person to you. Only one caution-if he should move on, you will have to be prepared for some tears on her part but not to worry, you're there.

Good work, guy! You have done very well.

[ToWild2Tame]

My husband and I tried the threesome with a man. We did the research etc. The time came and all was good, but when it got hot and heavy, it turned out not to be our thing. I could not get into it, hubby could not get into and the guy, well he seems to have been very inexperienced with sex in general.

A couple months ago, we were hanging out with another couple and things well, just happened. There was no swapping involved but what a great time! This is something we are looking forward to again. We kept things mellow that evening because out of the respect for the other couple and eachother, there were no boundries set. We have since made boundries and look forward to more, more and more.

Trust and communication are a MUST! This is something I would never even contemplated with my ex-husband, Jealousy was his middle name. If you have a solid foundation it will work out great!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Which is why selecting the right extra man is so very important. Excellent on finding another couple! Often that can be more difficult than just finding a third. Well done!

[doah2]

Let me tell my story about 5 years ago one of my close friends invited me to there house for dinner well something came up and i could not make it well this happened a few times and finally i made it over for dinner and me and my friend went outside for a cigarrete and he says my wife wants to give you a blowjob i was like what??? well it turns out they wanted to have a threesome with me but she wanted to break the ice with a bj. From that blowjob we now meet at there house about 2 times a month and we do our thing. She does not do anal so we just keep switching from the vag to the mouth and we both give it to her for 1-2 hours but some times we will throw down a viagra and give it to her good for 3-4 hours. Dont get me wrong we dont treat her like a whore we treat her like royalty which we should. From my point of view it's awsome i get to **** this girls brains out and then i can go home but how does he/she feel or talk about when i leave???? can any of you tell me how you feel when the 2nd guy goes home???


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[Old Kid]

doah2, Sorry for getting off topic here but what's your experiance with the viagra? I don't really have a prob but have heard of it being used recreationally before. Was toying with the idea of trying it for special occasions like screwing all day Sunday. My GF never seems to get enough

[EvilEvilKitten]

Old Kid - yes it is often used 'recreationally' but in the manner for which it was intended.

What do we talk about after you leave? How great it was. How much we really enjoy so-and-so sharing with us. How much we adore eachother.

Next question, please!
LOL

[Brandye]

There are many threads on threesomes. Some, people looking forward and some, backward to the outcome. Search.

[troilistfriend]

We've done it several times and have had fun. It is important to find the right guy. We did the mfm at hubby's request. Wifey met with the other guy several times after we all got to know eachother. This helped her get comfy with him, then we all got together, and wow! Be careful, after having done this several times with several different guys we can tell you that it totally has the possibility to go bad. The potential is there.

[shaved bi]

We are with groups of 3 to 5 people and have a great time, everyone is bi. The best of both worlds.