Anal Sex Help

[ajhubbell]

My wife and I have been married for going on ten years and are very happy. Our sex life is good, we enjoy a variety in our sex lives including sex toys and watching eachother masturbate. My problem is that I really enjoy having sex with her anally. She was the first woman I was with that would allow me to do that, but it hasn't happened in a couple of years now. She will occasionally ask me to stick a finger in while we are doggy style but that is about it. I have read other strings in these forums where women talk about the fact that they can't get enough. Their men are so lucky. So my question is: For those who truely do enjoy it, what do the men do that drives their women to loving it so much? For the women: what is it that you enjoy so much? I know that there can be some discomfort or even a small amount of pain, is that what you like or is it something else? I need help to get more anal sex.

[Sirene]

Girls are different. I went out with a 16yr old that demanded anal sex so much i gave her roids. She loved it so much.
The girl im with now lets me do it, & it turns her on when im just a bit inside of her... but it hurts her a lot when I go really deep.
She lets me do it anyway.

She usually asks me to do her ass after ive been playing with it for a while, licking her butt hole, running my fingers around the area etc. It still hurts, but it seems its more the idea of it that turns her on, rather than the feeling.

I love it when she cries from the pain though, & she likes it knowing that her painful moans turn me on.

Like I say, everyone is different.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Ahem - get your wife a strap-on the same size as yourself and then have her do you anally BEFORE you ask her to let you do her. THEN you can talk about it from personal experience which should increase your understanding. Far too often, men ask for what they are too wimpy to receive. FAIR IS FAIR, BUDDY!

[Sirene]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Ahem - get your wife a strap-on the same size as yourself and then have her do you anally BEFORE you ask her to let you do her. THEN you can talk about it from personal experience which should increase your understanding. Far too often, men ask for what they are too wimpy to receive. FAIR IS FAIR, BUDDY!

You talk about it as if no one likes it & its always gonna end up in pain with everyone woman.

[ajhubbell]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Ahem - get your wife a strap-on the same size as yourself and then have her do you anally BEFORE you ask her to let you do her. THEN you can talk about it from personal experience which should increase your understanding. Far too often, men ask for what they are too wimpy to receive. FAIR IS FAIR, BUDDY!

You seem to have a real issue with this. I have seen your other posts on this issue and you are very hostile about it. I do like to have anal play, for yourr information. You also seem to think that all anal sex, maybe all sex period, is nothing but hard ramming action. Slow and soft exists too. I have more than one speed and I am not looking to rip her open for an orgasm as you seem to think that all men are. I don't know what your history is that has made you so angry, but I love my wife and want her to enjoy everything that we do as much if not more than I do. I don't want her to ALLOW me to have sex with her anally just because I like it while she just lays there. You may have noticed from my posting that I was hoping to find a way to initiate this so that she wants and loves it. I am glad that I am not with a woman who is as bitter as you, but I hope that you find a man someday who can love you with enough tenderness to melt that icy disposition.

[Old Kid]

I'll try & offer a constructive sugestion. Maybe next time she wants that finger, do that awhile & ask if she'd like something a little bigger. Don't know if you guys get into porn at all but my ex used to get pretty excitted watching others do it(anal). Anyway, if and when she lets you, make sure it's good & slippy and don't go in all the way. Just work the head in an inch or so unless she wants or asks for more. I'm usually carefull about how deep & hard I thrust. Guess a little self concious and don't want to hurt her. Now vaginally, she wants everthing I got! BTW, she told be the other day it's been a while since I visited her back door. She gets so horny during her period, I think she just wants it in her someplace. Guess I'm just lucky.

[EvilEvilKitten]

ajhubb - you cannot have read very many of my postings is you believe I am without loving men, or bitter, or have an icy disposition.

This subject has been covered ad infinitum. While some women do enjoy anal sex, most do not and for good reason. I have found, from experience, that once a man experiences full blown anal sex for real with a penis or penis-like-substitute, his interest in the subject either dies or grows. By doing this, you will find out exactly why your wife has the reservations she does, and increased understanding of your own sexuality.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sirene try it as described and then we'll talk.

[Sirene]

Originally Posted by Old Kid

I'll try & offer a constructive sugestion. Maybe next time she wants that finger, do that awhile & ask if she'd like something a little bigger. Don't know if you guys get into porn at all but my ex used to get pretty excitted watching others do it(anal). Anyway, if and when she lets you, make sure it's good & slippy and don't go in all the way. Just work the head in an inch or so unless she wants or asks for more. I'm usually carefull about how deep & hard I thrust. Guess a little self concious and don't want to hurt her. Now vaginally, she wants everthing I got! BTW, she told be the other day it's been a while since I visited her back door. She gets so horny during her period, I think she just wants it in her someplace. Guess I'm just lucky.

Woot!! My thougts exactly. Well said

[Sirene]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Sirene try it as described and then we'll talk.

I've had many things up my ass, dildos, candles, bottles etc... & I like it. I started off doing it myself when I was young, then I met girls who loved doing it to me & who liked me doing it to them.

In fact, the majority of girls i have gone out with love anal sex.

My girlfriend often shoves things in my butt.
My male best friend has several dildos that his girl uses on him too.