Sexually Frustated

[RED46]

Okay...what was your sex life like prior to marriage???

sera300 Prior to marriage I used to from 3pm to 11pm and he worked from 8am to 4pm. So after work I used to go to his apartment (I had my own key). Sometimes he would already be in bed and sometimes not. When he was already in bed, he knew the minute I was in with him, he would reach for me and we would make out for at least 2 hours(That, of course was a mix of intercourse and other fun stuff). In the morning when he got up for work he would skip breakfast so we would go at it again. SEX was absolutely awesome.

[sera300]

If you reiterate this to him, does he not think something is really wrong??? Feel bad? Want to fix it? Is he depressed? Is he Bi and was getting some on the side? This is soooo strange! How long have you been married???

[RED46]

We have been married for 7 years (OK, well there's the problem)NOT!!!!

[ua322]

Originally Posted by sera300

Hell, when it's that wonderful time of the month...the last thing I want is to be touched sexually; however, he still has needs and I am always happy to accomidate w/ a BJ...it's a turn on for me to be able to do this for him.

You are one hell of a woman. Your husband is a lucky man.

[sera300]

UA322--I should be so lucky, but I'll settle for a nice boyfriend for a while! See the grass is greener on the other side...

[RED46]

Hey ua322,

Are you calling me a hell of a woman or sera300 a hell of a woman on my post

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop, stop, stop!

As I see it, you have done almost everything to get this man to work with you on this issue. So, the divorce is NOT about the lack of sex - it IS about his not being willing to work on fixing a serious, yes, this is SERIOUS, problem in your marriage.

I'm afraid that it may come to divorce since infidelity will 'hurt' him. I realise his lack of physical affection is hurting you but two wrongs etc. Since he has said that cheating would hurt, ask him if divorce would hurt him more or less, than cheating. His answer will tell you what to do next.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I'd divorce him, myself.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by RED46

Hey ua322,

Are you calling me a hell of a woman or sera300 a hell of a woman on my post

Both of you, quite frankly.

[RED46]

Thank you all for your input, it is greatly appreciated. I'll just have to give it more thought. As far as divorce, I am not ready to do that yet. As I said, life other that Sex is really good. It would be hard be find someone as wonderful as him in all other aspects.