Needs some space and time to figure things out

[b man]

My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a couple of months. We have talked about the idea of getting married, having kids, etc. About a week ago she told me that she needed a little space and time to figure out if we are "meant to be with each other".

I am 19 and in college, and she is 18, and is about to graduate high school. Since my college is about 90 miles away from our hometown, I told her that I was gonna stay at school for 3-4 weeks, and not call her at all. I was previously coming home every weekend to see her. Her parents told me that not calling her at all would be the best thing for me to do, because "you dont know what you've got till its gone.

Also, she met a guy at a party that she was at a few days before she told me that she wanted some space. I know that this guy is very interested in her and calls her all the time. She tells me that he is just a friend, and that spending some time with this guy will help her figure out if she really wants to be with me. Both of us have dated people in the past, but nothing was as serious as we are.

She told me that if after a few weeks, if she cant stand not being with me, then she will know that we should be together.

If you have any advice as to what I should do please help, this is a very confusing and difficult time for both of us.

[dancingdoc2]

This is not too untypical at your ages. Generally, if a girl says she needs space the message between the lines is she is or has second thoughts and is looking for a nice way to end things. Now, having said that, this doesn't always have to be the case, just that it generally is from all my observations.

Here is something to consider. The two of you are at very different stages in life even though you are only a few months apart in age. You are in college with a whole bunch of life experiences she has yet to fathom. She is still a high school girl with probably a girlish attitude about life more so than the college girls you are associated with. This is not a bad thing, only where each of you are on your respective life curves.

My best advice for you is to keep the lines of communication open with her if it is something she welcomes. Maintain the friendship even if it is to be tabled for awhile. The next thing is to become active on the dating scene. The whole purpose of dating is to sample much of what humanity has to offer so that when the time does come to find Ms./ Mr. Right, we will be better able to make the correct choice. Each of us needs to be exposed to as many different personalities, characters, quirks, likes, dislikes, goals, views on morality, religion, and other subjects, as possible. It is much too limiting to begin dating and then stop with the first warm body who expresses an interest.

So, let her wind up her high school activities, and you begin dating several women in order to broaden your horizons, exposure, and options. Besides, the more people you date, the more chances you have of having a date.

[OriginalBoks]

i was rowing the same boat as "b man" she needed to figure out if i was the one. we were together for about 3 years. so now she is with her ex bf and im single as hell. it aint really that bad. i accepted the fact she doesnt wanna be with me, and doesnt really care. so why should i? thats life.

now im at the "hard" part. trying to pick up chicks and initiate that first spark thatll lead to a date. its tricky cuz i havent been in the dating world for a long time.

but like they say, everything has a season.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Move on. If she was interested in being with you, she'd be with you. No harm, no foul.