Need Urgent Help!!

[apost3]

I'll try to make this as short and to the point as I can.

Quick backstory.. my fiance has a low sex drive. 3 times a month is our average as far as sex goes. However, he very much enjoys porn..looks at it DAILY.

Recently, he received an order of porn. I glanced where he "hides" his porn (he doesn't know I know the hiding spot) and there was a receipt for several DVD's, and a 6'' long dildo and lube. Initially I thought it was a gift to myself, as even though sex isn't often, we do enjoy getting a little dirty from time to time.

However, it was never given to me. I looked to see if it was still there yesterday and it was. However, a lot of the lube was gone, and (god..this is so humiliating!) there was hair on the dildo and it had been used (cleaned, but still used).

I am so confused and very hurt and just dont' know what in the hell to do or think about this. I am fearing the worst (that he is either gay or bi) and think that maybe this is why he never wants anything to do with me sexually. All of his porn is straight porn..no gay or bi porn.... but this has thrown me for a loop. All I want to do is cry. I can't confront him (yet) about it, because of the fact I was snooping. I know how to confront him (logn story) and plan to do so tomorrow night... But I need someone to give me some sort of Idea as to what they think it might be. Am I over reacting to a form of pleasure...or am I hitting the nail on the head?

Thanks in advance.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Calm down. TALK to him - not about the porn and dildo - but about the 3 imes per month. There is a lot going on with him that he isn't telling you. Being sexually mis-matched is a problem. Prepare yourself for having to move on.

[unknown11]

some guys like having anal stimulation but are not gay or bi, but in my opinion that he isnt getting the correct stimulation from you. maybe be more open with him and try more different ways. but you must talk to him about it
not yell but talk