Long relationship ending

[trekieintn]

How do you take a 5 year relationship ending with the person you love telling you that they are not in love with you anymore? Do you keep trying? Do you give up? Move on? Should you give up on something you want more than anything? Even if it's not what they want.

[Luvs2plzU]

Originally Posted by trekieintn

How do you take a 5 year relationship ending with the person you love telling you that they are not in love with you anymore? Do you keep trying? Do you give up? Move on? Should you give up on something you want more than anything? Even if it's not what they want.

If your partner has clearly communicated to you that it is over and you have been given clear reasons why they have fallen out of love with you...you should probably accept their decision and respect that decision...you may not AGREE with the decision, but if they have good reasons, if they have clarity about thier decision, it would be best for you to accept that...oh sure..you'll be vomitting, you'll have a torn out heart, you'll be numb...but if your partner has decided that they have fallen out of love with you...it won't really matter how much you try...you'll never change their mind...you can't guilt a person into remaining in something they don't want to stay in...Good Luck...

[trekieintn]

At one point she said to me "I've outgrown you". What does that mean? She can't or doesn't choose to tell me.

[Luvs2plzU]

Originally Posted by trekieintn

At one point she said to me "I've outgrown you". What does that mean? She can't or doesn't choose to tell me.

What part of the relationship with you has she "outgrown" ??...you HAVE to ask her these questions...does she have to baby sit you?? does she have to stroke your ego all the time...is her maturity level suddenly gone way higher??...there's a myriad of reasons to "outgrow"...did you see any of this coming??...

[Luvs2plzU]

Just went back to see what other topics you had posted in...and I see you've deleted a majority of your posts?? any reason for that??..

[NizeGie]

Originally Posted by trekieintn

At one point she said to me "I've outgrown you". What does that mean? She can't or doesn't choose to tell me.

"Outgrew" = changed in some way that makes you less compatible.

She chooses to describe it as directional and upwards ("grew"), but that's just her take. You (and others, if that were relevant) might not.

[trekieintn]

Originally Posted by Luvs2plzU

Just went back to see what other topics you had posted in...and I see you've deleted a majority of your posts?? any reason for that??..

bc they related to her

[EvilEvilKitten]

It is over! Let it go. Move on. We've all been there, well most of us, this is nothing new. Just take it and go elsewhere.

[ua322]

Originally Posted by trekieintn

At one point she said to me "I've outgrown you". What does that mean? She can't or doesn't choose to tell me.

Definitely let her go. But if you are totally clueless about the "outgrew" thing, I would at least try to find out what that means. This could totally be her problem, but if part of it truly is you, then this is a great time to learn from mistakes to make yourself a better person for the future.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfortunately it will take about 2 years before you are completely healed from this break-up. Sorry, but it is best if you know beforehand.