Why cant i trust her?

[smilexelectric]

Okay I am 16 and my girlfriend is 15 and I dont feel like I trust her I always get a weird feeling when im not around her but she loves me and I know she wouldn't cheat on me but why cant i trust her I just dont understand and im lost as hell.

[browneyedgirl]

No one can really tell you why. If you get a gut feeling that something's wrong, you should figure it out WITH HER. Tell her how you're feeling. Don't accuse her of anything. Just tell her that you're having difficulty trusting her. I'm sure she'll be willing to reassure you.

Honestly, trust is really important in a relationship. If you don't have trust, then you have a lot to work on. It's really important to be able to communicate with each other, and to be good friends before you move onto the sexual aspect of your relationship. Once you know each other well and are able to communicate freely, the problem should go away on its own.

[smilexelectric]

well we do communicate well and we do get along real well and agree on alot of stuff. I guess their is no reason not to trust but I just dont know why I cant. Maybe something other than trust, should I just ignore this feeling?

[Zan]

when do you get this gut feeling? is it whenever you are around her or around certain ppl/person?

[demonbuttercup]

You should trust people unless they give you a reason not to.
Has she ever given you a reason?

[EvilEvilKitten]

You are insecure. Deep down you do not feel yourself worthy of her affection therefore you don't trust her. You really do not believe it when she says that she does love you. In fact: you are jealous. Very very bad and this will slowly poison your relationship if you do not stop it. You will increasingly seek to control her to the point where she can no longer call her life her own and must constantly account to you for every moment of her time away from from you. Do you enjoy being her 'jailor'? Seems not since you are here asking about it.

When you fel this way - stop and think - why am I doing this? What is it that I fear? Am I afraid of losing her? If so - why am I driving her away?

If she likes you - she will be with you when she can - so just relax.

[smilexelectric]

Sometimes she tells stuff i dont believe, but she actually is telling the truth. I do control I talked to her about it, and she told she doesn't really care unless sometimes she tells me she not ready to tell and I basically force her to tell me. I told her and I do feel bad about it. I do try to control her but I realize it too but it just happens. I dont like it at all.

[EvilEvilKitten]

then get professional counseling before you drive her, and any subsequent lovers, away.

[smilexelectric]

Im only 16 -.-

[smilexelectric]

It happens when im not around her, I dont really get to see her because her mom and her grandparents. Her mom basically doesn't want her having a boyfriend.