What to do?

[VegasMama77]

I have a question on what to do with my husband. We have been together for 16 months now, married for 8 months and have a 6 wk old baby. Ever since the beginning I have been trying to get my husband interested in doing some different things in the bedroom. Basically he only feels comfortable in either the missonary or doggie style position and only in our bed. I've tried to do things slowly and tell him what I'm interested in but he doesn't seem willing to even try something new. What do I do to get him to be more open with me and try something else? We do have an age difference, he's 40 and I'm 29, but I'm guessing that's not the real issue here. Any suggestions on how to get him into either trying it in a different way or just a different room in our house??

[Cleveland]

Have you asked him if he has ever had sex outside of bed? If he liked it anywhere else? Who knows, what you're asking him to do might be totally foreign to him. Maybe set up a nice bath with candles and wine to set the stage? Next time he's in the shower join him and use the soap in creative ways. Did you two ever make out in the back seat of a car?

[VegasMama77]

I have tried to ask him to get him to open up about what he's done in the past and enjoyed or what he'd like to explore now and he just seems to have no interest. He claims he likes things the way they are and not to mess with it. I have joined him in the shower, he likes to be "touchy feely" but anything beyond that and he just doesn't participate. I guess I just have alot of things that interest me sexually, things I've never had the chance to explore with anyone else and want to do these with him. Just don't know how to get him into it.

[Wagie]

Hmmm. Really don't want to play Dr Phil here, but alarm in my head turned on : (relatively) young relationship, pregnancy right off the bat, and baby in between the two of you just as you work out settling in together - regardless of how much you each love the little-one! To me, red alarm lights start flashing. Talk, seek help, but don't let simmer. Good luck!

[EvilEvilKitten]

He's not communicating with you. He's pushing you away with specious 'if it isn't broke' platitudes. But it obviously is broke since you are not happy.

SEEK COUNSELING!