Contrasting bedroom views......

[sparco]

Me and my girlfriend have different views in the bedroom. We have tried to compramise but it doesnt seem to be working.

She is not a very horny person and prefers to go to bed and sleep! But we do have sex and once we have started she realy gets into it. She enjoys me giving her massages and oral and other sorts of foreplay and returns the favour We even try different positions.

But she used to be a very horny person abouta year ago. She used to be up for anything and we used to have outdoor sex all the time, risky sex and she even have me a hand job in a public cinema under a coat when there were people near! I did loved it! Basically I miss the old her becuase she used to be an angel, but a devil in the bedroom! We have spoke about it and she said she doesnt feel the same about sex anymore and doesn't think she will ever get back to that. So for the last year I have been wishing for our old sex life back. She says its becuase she's always busy and tired because she was only at college before.

Im a very horny person and im into any kind of sex! I like watching porn togeather (she doesnt like but has tried), role plays (I dont dare ask because of reaction to other ideas I suggester), dressing up in uniforms (she doesnt mind but not as often as I like, and she's never very enthusiastic), kinky things like handcuffs, maybe leather items but only mild (I dont dare ask because of reactions), Other fetish's like feet, and I love nylon (but I dont dare ask), outdoor risky sex (asked but she doesn't want too which I underatand and accept). My main fantisy is for her to act out as my secutary. But when I suggested it she wasn't very kean.

I love her to pieces but I cant help feeling that this difference is getting between us. I annoy her asking all the time (although I am kind and understanding), and I get frustrated because out sex life doesn't fully explore my desires. Although I dont show this frustration to her because im a very gentle nature. I always tell her its ok and we go to sleep. I feel so shallow for moaning about sex when I love her so much. But its tearing me appart. I have too masterbate 2-3 times a day to keep myself under control.

What do you guys think? Do I have to learn to control myself? Am I being realy unfair and unreasonable? Because I feel like im being unfair keep going on about it. Im quite confused at the monent. Partly because im only 20, and she is my first sexual partner and I want to explore sex too the maximum but she doesn't want too. And I dont want to leave her because I want to be with her forever. But if I stay with her then many things I want to do/try will never be explored. I cant deal with the concept of this.

She has just come off the injection and is now on the pill. Maybe thats why her hormones are unstable? Its been over a year since our sex life was brilliant, now its just good. I want it to be brilliant again.

I was thinking, is there any medication I could take too reduce my hormones? So I dont feel so horny 24-7? Because it just leads too frustration. I feel abnormal wanting so much sex, and such wierd fantisies! Is there medication that can help control these? Because I feel the solution is self control and be happy with what you got.

Please leave your views because any will be valued.

Thanks.

[Luvs2plzU]

Pssssssssssst Sparco....let's follow this thread and see what comes of it...sounds like the same sort of symptoms...http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/birt...ince_pill.html ....hopefully you'll get answers in both places!!

[Cleveland]

You are NOT abnormal! The good news is that you guys were in sync at one time so getting back to it is not looking for something she is not capeable of. Maybe one of the doctors here can tell us about the use of her birth control re. side effects...

[Luvs2plzU]

Originally Posted by Cleveland

Maybe one of the doctors here can tell us about the use of her birth control re. side effects...

Uhhhhh dude...the only 'REAL' doctor-Brandye has retired from site...

[ua322]

Well, if you were 30, I'd say "welcome to reality and just learn to accept it". But you're 20 and I would say that you're too young to already be saddled with this kind of disparity in sex drive. I don't think you'll be able to accept this over the long run.

[sparco]

Its realy getting me down because I feel unatractive. Every attempt to turn her on never works, and she is always more interested in the tv or her mobile fone. Or moans she is tired.

And too top it off Im getting a bit sexualy frustrated because its been a few weeks since having sex. She wont even give me handjobs to ease the pressure.

[ua322]

How long have you two been together?

[sparco]

two and a half years. Does the time matter?

I realy want the old sex life back, can anyone help with this? Please?

[unknown11]

u need sumthing to get the spark bak between u 2

[sparco]

I have tried loads of things. She says that once people have been togeather you dont have as much sex and thats just the way things go.

But at 20 years old I dont want a boring sex life. If we are like this at 20 I cant bare too think what 40 will be like.

I tried things like massages, lighting candles, having batchs togeather, buying small gifts too try and get her in the mood. I got her a few sex toys too use alone, and togeather, sexy underware, making cheeky suggestions (subtle)

I always offer too give oral, or any other services! And I bought loads of little games like body paint games, dice with positions and kama sutra cards with loads of positions.

So I have tried very hard! Im running out of ideas!

help!

It must be the pill right?