Finishing a girl over lack of sex??

[richie2852]

Well i've come to the point that i can't take this relationship with out more sex, i know it sounds shallow and you may think im only in a relationship for sex but putting it frankly i cannot have a serious relationship with out a very active sex life as i find problems all derive from lack of sex.
so question is, is it wrong to finish someone because they don't give you enough sex?

p.s i have tried communicating with her about it except she just says she doesn't want to do it, and she says she's tired when i know she's lieing because she was like wide awake before i mentioned sex issues....... i really love sex and need it to have a healthy relatonship.

thanks for help

[Cara2780]

I think it is wrong but at the same time you need to do what is going to make you happy:

[bruins76]

I think it's VERY wrong to end a relationship based on sex. I am in your shoes, my man is always tired & if it were up to me we'd have sex daily but it's more like every 4-7 days, when I was pregnant more like 1 time a month, again all cause he wasn't into it or too tired (men can be turned off by a pregnant wife).

Anyways...the point I am trying to make is love is unconditional, if you love this person enough to marry her/ ber her husband etc., you take them for everything, better, worst, sickness, health, richer, poorer.

An example I use is look at Christopher Reeves wife. Once he was in that wheel chair do you think they ever has sex again? Nope. But did it matter to her? Nope. She married him for him, she had children w/ this man & even though I am sure it was tough for her, as much as it was for him, they got through it.

If my man got into an accident & could never have sex w/ me again, I'd be sad about it but I'd stay w/ him. There are other ways of being intimate other than having intercourse.

If she isn't having sex w/ you & it's not cause she's tired, then there is defintely something else going on here. You are not doing something emotionally for her & she is feeling like a piece of meat & that's why she's not running hot for you. Perhaps she's got some depression issues too, ya never know.

Anyways, if you love her, it's wrong. If you don't, then do what you want.

Sex is NOT everything & not a deal breaker either.

JMO, HIH, GL

[sparco]

Its a tough issue for most young blokes, as many still want too spread their seed! I think we have all been there before, thnking why dont we just go off and get with someone who's up for anything? (basically your average slapper). Being male its difficult too see past the problem of not much sex, but youve gotta try and look at your relationship on the whole and see if its worth keeping.

You may be able too find someone who's up for alot of sex, but will it be the same? I dont get a huge amount of sex, but when I do it reminds me why I love her so much because the intimacy is so intense. When we do have sex its special and not just a shag.

[Luvs2plzU]

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[Westles]

Originally Posted by sparco

Its a tough issue for most young blokes, as many still want too spread their seed! I think we have all been there before, thnking why dont we just go off and get with someone who's up for anything? (basically your average slapper). Being male its difficult too see past the problem of not much sex, but youve gotta try and look at your relationship on the whole and see if its worth keeping.

You may be able too find someone who's up for alot of sex, but will it be the same? I dont get a huge amount of sex, but when I do it reminds me why I love her so much because the intimacy is so intense. When we do have sex its special and not just a shag.

Good point Sparco, im in the same boat as you lad.

[richie2852]

cheers for advice guys and girls. i feel like a complete prick now that i have thought about it.....dumping someone over lack of sex.!! what am i thinking, cheers for help, im gonna get things back on track that really matter like me simply and unconditionally loving her

[nursefluffykins]

i had bed troubles with my guy when we first met actually (look up my posts from about 18 months ago lol).. anyway, it has improved, but it took time and patience for sure... and i do really love him,

[sparco]

Originally Posted by richie2852

cheers for advice guys and girls. i feel like a complete prick now that i have thought about it.....dumping someone over lack of sex.!! what am i thinking, cheers for help, im gonna get things back on track that really matter like me simply and unconditionally loving her

Ive been there before mate and it does feel ****. Try and concentrate on other things. Maybe spoil her a little bit, like buying her flowers, and small chocolate bars. Maybe she feels she doesnt get enough attention from you? Girls do need a lot of love and attnetion and they are easy too neglect!

My girl isn't the horniest either so I hate too work hard at it. We usualy do her favourite bits rather than mine because she's not as adventerous as me! The best move I ever made was buying her a vibrator (best a small clit stimulator rather than 10" monster!) and she got too know her own body better. Soon after that she was was the boss in the bedroom!

[i<3karma]

no you shouldnt leave someone for lack of sex but lack of sex may stem from other problems that may warrent discontinuing the relationship...i should have worded that better.