Girlfriend won't have sex with me anymore

[richie2852]

Ok then we have been together for about 7 months now and at first thigns were great we had sex all the time, we never argued at all. life was great. however over the past few months she doesn' ever want to have sex anymore. i personally need sex alot and she just won't have any of it, when i tried confronting the matter she argues with me saying all im after is sex e.t.c . when im not its just that to me a relationship that is healthy also haas a healthy sex life in it as well. i really love this girl but it appears to me that she may have only had sex with me in the begginin in a way to get me to commit,
i'm even contemplating druggin her with viagra HOWEVER think that may be a bit morally wrong.

i really need advice in ways to appproach the situation and resolve it to help us become more sexually active. thanks

[unknown11]

wow if u drug her then u got issues but tell her ud love with or without sex and wut her opinion is on the subject

[bruins76]

Drugging her? Sorry pal... there is something wrong w/ YOU, not her!

[CJS-81]

Originally Posted by richie2852

Ok then we have been together for about 7 months now and at first thigns were great we had sex all the time, we never argued at all. life was great. however over the past few months she doesn' ever want to have sex anymore. i personally need sex alot and she just won't have any of it, when i tried confronting the matter she argues with me saying all im after is sex e.t.c . when im not its just that to me a relationship that is healthy also haas a healthy sex life in it as well.

yes a good relationship should have a healthy sex life... but at the same time, sex should not be a condition on the relationship. A sex life doesn't even have to mean having sex - it can be the initimacy you share, the kisses, holding hands, the cuddles, letting her know she's appreciated.

I think the number one reason women get turned off sex is when they feel unappreciated, or like the romance has gone. Being sexual isn't something you should expect (or demand) from her.

If you want to get more sex back into your relationship, work on the romance, and working out issues thoroughly (don't blame her for anything or demand she has sex with you) - there is a beautiful old saying, "never let the sun go down on an argument" - that is the key to a good relationship.

Also.... have you stopped to think about her for a minute?

*Maybe she is tired from work and not up to having sex - so offer to give her massage - not with any ulterior motives, mind you. It will help release her tension and you may find she is more willing to talk about things that are bothering HER.

*Maybe she suffers from endometriosis - it's very common and sex can get quite painful.

*Maybe she has deep emotional issues about sex - she might feel you're losing touch - she might feel disconnected from you, and like you're not interested in her as a person any more, only her body. Indeed how she is reacting to your questioning of her may well indicate this, but it is not a given. Either way, you are obviously being demanding and losing sight of her.

There are two people in a relationship - it's not all about you.

Originally Posted by richie2852

i really love this girl but it appears to me that she may have only had sex with me in the begginin in a way to get me to commit,
i'm even contemplating druggin her with viagra HOWEVER think that may be a bit morally wrong.

Ya think?

Drugging her is grossly wrong - in fact it'd be rape, and that's not something you'd like to have on your record...

[i<3karma]

why do women get soo damned offended at a joke i mean the guy said viagra ...you think he wants her to get a throbbing erection??? it was a joke poor guy will prolly never respond to you now. gawd calm down you can't help if you get soo offended... like most problems this could probably be fixed if you payed more attention to her. try taking her out somewhere nice give her a day where you do things SHE would enjoy go to a spa or something never underestimate a cappucino at a small cafe. and in response to something i see way too much in the answers on these forums, guys love sex and as much as they would like not too they really do need it sometimes to feel like there partner really cares/wants them, maby if women want there men to share there feelings more the women in there lives should start treating them like they have feelings and real needs...rant ended