Girlfriends ex

[every_step]

I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months, and i have spent the best part of it all, worring about how she feels about her ex. And it recently has come out that she has strong feelings for him again, and she has been speaking to him a lot. She tells me that he is nothing compared to me, but the fact she has these feelings for him, is breaking my heart. I don't know what i can do. We're in a long-distance relationship aswell, which makes things so much harder. All the obvious things run through my head, like is she meeting up with him etc. I keep putting on a brave face, and just let her carry on with it, but it's hurting too much. What can i do to stop this pain?

[sharkwave540]

i wuld think after 18 months you two wuld be in a great relationship. and did u tell her straight up that it breaks ur heart to kno that? and im guessin her ex lives in her area?

or u culd make a new friend thats a girl and after a while tell ur current gf u have feelings for her.

idk but it culd be worth a try.

[WallyLlama]

Honestly works in a relationship, games do not -- at least not over the long haul.

You'll need to find the balance. On the one hand, to a large extent you are responsible for your insecurities and you shouldn't try to make her responsible. On the other hand, it's very appropriate for you and her to "share" the problem... and figure out together how to manage it.

Long distance is TOUGH, but it's also an opportunity to make the relationship communication-based. If you are getting your information about her feelings from her, it just makes sense to let her know how YOU feel. Don't turn it into a contest or power play. Just talk about it

[bruins76]

If she has feelings for someone else AND tell's you about that then dude, she's just not that into you. You need to be w/ someone who has feelings for YOU and YOU only...not other ppl, that is just not right.

You shouldn't have to wonder if she's meeting up w/ her ex, or what's she doing when you're not around, if you are there is a lack of trust (rightfully so since she told you that she like's another person)...the relationship is broken. No trust, she like's another dude...what else can I say?

Find someone who will appreciate you for you, want to be w/ you, and not dig another dude when you aren't around.

It's that simple. I am SS that she's this rude about your relationship in that you have to feel this way. Don't put on that "I am okay" face anymore, your not okay, you shouldn't be okay, and to act like you are okay w/ her telling you this crap is....well....NOT OKAY!!!

Tell her "buh-bye" & to persue her crush/ex & let you move on w/ your life. You deserve WAY BETTER.

HIH, GL

[Newwife]

Originally Posted by bruins76

If she has feelings for someone else AND tell's you about that then dude, she's just not that into you. You need to be w/ someone who has feelings for YOU and YOU only...not other ppl, that is just not right.

You shouldn't have to wonder if she's meeting up w/ her ex, or what's she doing when you're not around, if you are there is a lack of trust (rightfully so since she told you that she like's another person)...the relationship is broken. No trust, she like's another dude...what else can I say?

Find someone who will appreciate you for you, want to be w/ you, and not dig another dude when you aren't around.

It's that simple. I am SS that she's this rude about your relationship in that you have to feel this way. Don't put on that "I am okay" face anymore, your not okay, you shouldn't be okay, and to act like you are okay w/ her telling you this crap is....well....NOT OKAY!!!

Tell her "buh-bye" & to persue her crush/ex & let you move on w/ your life. You deserve WAY BETTER.

HIH, GL

I totally agree. MInus some of the "dudes".