Anniversaries...

[STKMIKECAMPO2]

Some people make a big deals about them like 3 week anniversary and 3 & 1\2 month anniversary. I like my anniversary because its a reminder every month (i do every month;P) of the person you are with. So I always manage to do somthing a little out of the ordinary or out of routine. Sometimes simple, sometimes big denpends. My g\f and I have been together for 16 months, every month since the begining i have been doing somthing. Even at the begining when I didnt actually love her I gave\did something to make her feel special. Once I fell in love I decided that I would do somthing every month out of the ordinary just to show that I think of her and that I love her. But she never did anything on our anniverseries, no big deal though. She doesnt beleive that much in them, but she appreciates the special days

This month however... I forget, I honnestly forgot. Forgot like when a guy in a movie forgets, so many clues in front of the face but took lots of yelling and "I guess u just dont get it"'s. About five times she mentioned the date I answered her with even thinking... mind you this is the after as well. On the actually day we were both ill and tired from work (plus we dont live together) so I could only call her but no return phone call.

This month she had something planned. Not knowing that it was are anniversary the day before, I went to her house (the day after), she closed the door on me, so my reaction, WTF why are so mad?!?! U close the ****ing door on me. I would look at her, her only comment was **** off.. so I left. I'm pissed because I dont know why she's so pissed, then she's pissed because I forgot, because i came to her house, because I left, because I didn't answer my phone while walking away, and the list is on going.

So after trying to figure out what went wrong via phone I'm pissed so I'm trying to figure out whats going and at the same time making her feel like she did something wrong (which she did, but only because I intially, unknowingly did somthing wrong) So i pinned stuff on her, until I finally realize what I forgot.
You make someone feel like crap when your technically the one at fault.
Anyway how does one go about making such a miss understanding.

[dancingdoc2]

I believe your thoughts are in the right place to have a special date at least once a month; however, I believe it is not the best idea to tie it to an "aniversary". Doing this makes the actual yearly celebration less special and perhaps little more than the previous eleven. Better me thinks to make a big deal out of taking her on a nice date that is only tied to your relationship in general. Don't make this special date on the same date as your anniversary--vary the day. Of course, continue to do other things together the rest of the month as time and schedules permit.

Her reaction could be hurt about forgetting, however, after an initial miff, continuing to harbor anger is non productive and she is doing more damage to the relationship than you.

[STKMIKECAMPO2]

Another thing is that I forgot the anniversary after a milestone point in our relationship. I dont love her any less, I just honnestly forgot, and I'm the romantic. She somewhat understands that but I believe espcially with her kind of personality there will be some kind of resentment for some time. The milestone is that she overcame I lie that I told her about a woman that I had talked to while we were apart..... we were apart we only talked about her and what I should do to get a second chance... which she did give me. 5months later her number was still in my phone, i had no use for it but it was still there she over came that. for the past month it was a bit rocky but good, this time she had something to expect but never got it. Once again another let down. How can I\we overcome that?

P.S. I think thats it for stuff coming out of the wood work

[demonbuttercup]

My b/f and I dont really have an anniversary. We met on the internet a few years before we actually met in person.. so is it that day? or the day we moved in together? who knows
either way, I usually forget and dont even notice.I could care less, haha. and he is worse than me!

I am sure I'd remember if/when it is a wedding anniversary. I really think those are the ones that count.