08-22-2006, 01:57 PM
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fantasy, fetish or reality
So this goes out to both guys and gals alike:
As a woman is it threatening to "discover" your significant other is interested, turned on by, (and masterbates to) "shemale" porn? There's a whole back story, but I'd like some general feedback. I understand some "straight" men find this erotic, is this something that can be shared by a couple? When does a fantasy become a fetish, and when does a fantasy become reality? I have some serious doubts about his orientation now. Any similar situations or thoughts ? 
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08-22-2006, 03:51 PM
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I'd find it more intriguing than disturbing or threatening.
Personally I am not interested in "shemale porn" so I'd want to find out what my partner likes about.
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08-22-2006, 04:58 PM
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08-23-2006, 02:40 AM
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I would strongly recommend you explore this pretty thoroughly... and I would worry more about who he is than your reaction (feeling threatened) to it. I think most would agree this is not a "mainstream" sexual preference. I can't say that I have a lot of first-hand information or experience, but the one "straight" guy I knew that was a bit into this was... um... pretty weird in some non-sexual areas as well. I think your concerns regarding his orientation are justified.
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08-24-2006, 07:56 AM
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it's like pulling teeth
trying to find out what is so arousing is like pulling teeth, he simply won't tell me Oh wait he did mention something that it was like Randall in Clerks "Chicks with Dicks its the best of both worlds" Not quite sure what that means in respect to us.
He says it's nothing he would act on, but all I can think of is well is that just for "now" what about when we're married with kids, et.c etc. etc. At the same time maybe it is pure fantasy an odd one, and if it is I would like to "try" to share it. I'm not into porn in general, but I'll give it my best if it would help our relationship. I love him so much I'd try "almost" anything if it meant we could both be happy. Yet, that little nagging voive tells me I'm opening up a can of worms. Are there any guys out there who like watching this stuff who consider themselves "Straight" In a loving relationship with a woman. Anyone? Point is I've invested 6 years of my life into this man and own 2 homes with him. I'm beginning to think maybe that's why were not married yet.
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08-25-2006, 06:02 AM
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You just might be on to something.
I watched one can of worms wiggle over a very similar issue. It was not pretty. I think it has less to do with straight/versus gay than it does with the total personality... Don't buy any more houses with him. It ought to nag at you that he "won't" tell you why it's arousing... does it trouble him at all that he's attracted? What makes him so sure he won't act on it? There are at least several dozen questions here that you might not like the answers to but that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask them. Trying to validate his preferences (by looking for guys like him who are straight) is perhaps honorable, but it's also potentially delusional. DIG.
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09-01-2006, 04:09 PM
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yep
Turns out that I am indeed delusional, I guess the grey in love and sex is indeed grey. Thanks for the guidance, he's suggesting that we go to therapy together. I'm packing up my bags. I suppose you never really get a chance to "know" a person 100% I'm not sure why I ever expected different, rose colored glasses are beautiful things. Though he's never physically cheated on me I feel as though the lying and deceiving and hiding is the same intent. Am I wrong? I guess I never bought the "stand by your man" mentality, fool me twice shame on me right? Fool my three times and I'm just a silly tool, which is my current feeling, a silly little tool
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09-03-2006, 03:08 AM
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Thanks for posting the "rest of the story." I am genuinely sorry it isn't the end you hoped for; but am also very happy you learned what you needed to before the situation got worse. I suppose in some way having seen a very similar situation go very bad I feel some special sense of... not sure what! It's not exactly happiness...
Therapy is an interesting option... one that I wouldn't totally dismiss, but I would certainly keep the rose colored glasses in your handbag. It is interesting that you mention the lying, deceit, hiding he did... and perhaps not coincidental that "shemales" include much of the same - a hidden identity. You are not, however, a silly fool. Quite the contrary.
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