My wife has never had an orgasm. HELP!!

[Jake]

Frankly People this is just killing our sex lives.She has absolutely no sex drive.I have had no problems before getting a woman to climax.But she's a different story.Does anyone have any suggestions? I feel as if she is being jipped out of something very special , and leaving myself feeling pretty insecure.

[Luvs2plzU]

Originally Posted by Jake

Frankly People this is just killing our sex lives.She has absolutely no sex drive.I have had no problems before getting a woman to climax.But she's a different story.Does anyone have any suggestions? I feel as if she is being jipped out of something very special , and leaving myself feeling pretty insecure.

Jake dude...you MARRIED her...you must have known about this BEFORE you got married?? NO?? YES??...if this has changed since you got married...get to a counsellor....if she was like that before you were married...are you trying to CHANGE a person??...still requires a visit to a counsellor...Good Luck my friend!!

[Jake]

I can remember the last time she made a sexual movement torwards me , and it was just before we were married. Maybe the deal with the pennys going in the jar before your married and then coming out after your married is very true. I was just hoping I was in a nursing home or something before that took place.

[bruins76]

As a poster said "you married her"... With that said she might have something physically wrong w/ her that can't let her climax, did you ever think of that? Is she on antidepressants or anxiety meds? Maybe she hasn't had experience w/ the right person, maybe you aren't pushing her buttons to make her have one. Even though you didn't have a prob getting other's to climax in the past, you don't know what make's HER get off...otherwise you wouldn't be having this prob all together. I'd talk to her, go to couple's counseling & try to see what's the real prob here cuz a gal can usually climax "unless" she has something physically wrong w/ her, she's on a med that changes her libido (very common) OR you aren't doing the right thing to make her "get off".

Either way, you married her "for better or worst"...etc., work on it the right way & don't be a jerk about it.

JMO, HIH & GL

[amber101]

Originally Posted by Jake

Frankly People this is just killing our sex lives.She has absolutely no sex drive.I have had no problems before getting a woman to climax.But she's a different story.Does anyone have any suggestions? I feel as if she is being jipped out of something very special , and leaving myself feeling pretty insecure.

I have always had this problem as well. My husband has spent a long time working with me and I do have wonderful orgasms. Has she masturbated to orgasm? Is it medical or related to medicine. If it is not anything medical I can only tell you what has helped me. Patience and not putting too much pressure on me to orgasm, pressure makes it worse. I find ways to masturbate myself and then incorporate into sex with my husband. He loves it and usually with his help I acheive a better orgasm than I could have had on my own. I find it hard to believe that she has never masturbated to orgasm.

[papurdawl]

my question would be what were her sexual relationships like before you. That would way heavy on her sexual libido, was she raped or molested, was she abused, did someone just use her for sex, did someone tell her she was fat, did someone tell her she was bad in bed. Also do you ask her about orgasming while doing the act? Some women cant orgasm b/c they concentrate way to much on it, if the both of you can let it go and just let it happen it probably will. Maybe shes really worried about how much it upsets you and shes trying to hard and its not happening, which could make a women feel very bad about themselves and make them not want to have sex. do you do different positions, and go down on eachother, does she masterbate?

[Brandye]

One-quarter of all women nevr reach orgasm. Many give up and accept a sexless life. If she wants to do something about it, great; if not, there is nothing you can do to make her more sexual.

[oldkinky]

Try a Trojan Vibrating Ring during intercourse. My wife loves it and cums several times.

[Newwife]

All women bodies are different. Some women just can’t have an orgasm through intercourse. Some women go there whole lives without reaching a climax (which is a real shame) but that’s what happens sometimes. Nothing has to be wrong with her. I can’t have an orgasm unless it is through oral sex. Tell her to relax.... that is one important factor. She has to be into it or it WON’T happen.