I need help

[Angel85]

Well I broke up with my last boyfriend of 2 1/2 years about 6 months now and just broke up with this ex boyfriend about 4 days ago with him saying it was the distance but I found out he has another girlfriend so basically I found out he was dating this girl while we dated Problem with me is that I have a lot of guy friends and I'm very attracted to this guy but I work with him and he has a girlfriend who he has been with for 3 years and from what I know they're the cute high school couple which is what I had with my first boyfriend. Anyways to the point, I've been flirting with him since I broke up with my first boyfriend and I was all depressed and he made me feel better and at that time I didn't know he had a girlfriend until someone told me when he showed me a picture of her. A couple of times he has kissed me and well from shock I kissed him back but I wanted to kiss him. We've almost done a little more than kissing but we still haven't had sex. Problem is I want a relationship and he just wants sex which is what I wanted but now I don't know. What should I do? Its not easy to say no when you're in my shoes and you're so attracted to this guy.

[Browser]

Punctuation and sentence structure, please.

From what I can gather:
-You broke up with a guy after a 2.5 year relationship.
-You broke up with a previous ex four days ago and found out he was cheating on you.
-You are attracted to a guy (the ex in point two or a different one?)
-Your current flame has a girlfiend.
-You want to know if you should help him cheat on his girlfriend.

Answer: no. I don't care if it's not easy, the answer is no. He's taken.

In fact, you probably don't want a relationship with him anyway. You seem fixated on the physical aspect while almost ignoring the emotional side.

If he's trying to cheat on his girlfriend, you don't want to have a relationship with him. What's to stop him from cheating on you in due time?

Dump him now.

[learst]

My little sis was in a similar situation a few years back. They worked in the same place and loved each other. I really liked the guy, but my little sis called me one day crying and told me about some issues he had, that he wasnt going to change, and eventually, she dumped him. If this guy you love wants your body and nothing else(while its seeing someone else), even though it hurts, I suggest trying to forget about him and move on to a guy who really wants to be with you. You need not be treated like that. This action may sting a little at first, but I know there are millions of men out there that would give their left nut to be with you, it just takes patience and time, but I know you can do it!

[bruins76]

Sounds like you are physically attracted to him and so is he BUT you have other emotions involved, which is common since "most" women get this way and cannot separate sex and feelings, we usually associate sex w/ intimacy and a relationship, not just purely physical which is what this guy wants and it's clear that he ONLY wants. If he has a girlfriend, regardless of him "wanting" you...all he wants is sex, nothing more...which means he's USING you and that's disgusting, if you want to be used purely for this man to "get off" and be his dumping ground for his sperm, then go right ahead. But if you have any self respect, walk away and END all communication w/ this man/boy, immediately! You work w/ him, that's another problem...once you cross the line you will have an awkward working environment, very unprofessional, unless you work at a dinner or gas station, but most work places frown upon any "relationships" in the work place.

Now on another note, if you don't have sex w/ this man, I can guarantee that he'll do it w/ someone else and his girlfriend will find out...eventually, they always do. Do you want to be known as a "whore" to some strange gal who is innocent in this situation? How would you feel if the table's were turned? Not too good I am sure. Like I said, he's gonna cheat regardless, and it's obvious that his girlfriend isn't that important to him, but if I were you I wouldn't touch this w/ a 10 foot pole knowing that you could be a cause of a breakup and nasty situation at work. Move on and get to know a guy that is WORTH your time and energy, no matter how good looking, not worth it. You'll end up regretting it immediately afterwards, that's a promise.

GL
~C

[?wiseman?]

since I broke up with my first boyfriend and I was all depressed and he made me feel better

Think about how it felt when you found out that your ex-BF was boinking someone else and ask yourself if you now want to be the "someone else." If a guy (or girl) has a history of cheating in their relationships, why in heaven's name would you want to be involved with them?

Walk away, grow up and figure out what you really want in a relationship. If you're still not sure, get a puppy.

[Angel85]

Yeah I think I'm just attracted to the physical and he's not really my type when I think about it. I don't want to be used plus I know how it feels to be cheated on and I think I just turned to him because I was depressed. And with the quote of "Walk away, grow up and figure out what you really want in a relationship. If you're still not sure, get a puppy." Hell why not I mean I already have a dog might as well walk her even more. Thank for the help though!