Is it true that a man's sex drive really decreases w/ age???

[bruins76]

My man and I have sex, but not as much as I would like that's for sure. He always comments on how when he was young he couldn't think of anything else but now never think's of it or if he does it's not everyday, maybe 1 time per week "if" that (depending on his work load and stress level).

I know that I've become more "horny" w/ age, I just didn't "get it" when I was younger but I think it's cause of experience that come's w/ age etc. I know if it were up to me I'd have it at least every 3 days at the least but I'd be thrilled w/ every day. Our sex life on the other hand...more like every week (b/c I have to initiate it) or if it is up to him every 2-3 weeks on his terms w/ him inititating it.

All my gal pal's other husbands are the same & don't want sex 'as much' as they used too so I know that this is the norm. But then you hear on TV all the time (I know it's TV but) how women are always never in the mood or that the guy is begging for it and they are lucky to get it on their anniversary cause the wives don't want it. I.E., Everybody Love's Ray, Ray is always BEGGING his Deborah to have sex and she is always saying no. Same thing w/ "king of queen's" if Carrie wants Doug to do something he says that he wants a pizza and some "shimmy-sham/sex"... Again, I know this is TV and all but they reference this behavior in men so much on TV that I would like to know if there is some truth to this or is it just for TV and that a man's sex drive really decreases w/ age.

What can you do to get a guy's sex drive up? I mean...what can THEY do? is there a pill out there? vitamin? food? an exercise? I wanna know cause I'd like me and my man's sex drive to be more "in-sync" than how it is today. I've talk to my guy on many occasions about this cause I would (and still do) take it personal, like that there is something wrong w/ me that he doesn't want me in that way all the time, that I don't turn him on as much or something. Every other man in my life (which I don't want to compare but I kind of do I'll admit) has always wanted sex all the time and I'd be the one giving in even if I weren't in the mood. Never has my sex drive been higher than my partner that's for sure. Now I am turning 30 in August and my guy is 32, he's not THAT old to have a lower drive is he? I mean...I know that he's no 16 year old horny teen but c'mon...he's not dead or in his 70's that his stuff doesn't work.

When we do have sex it's great...he's very turned on etc., but for the most part agan I have to initiate it, it would be nice if he could do more of the initiating...I guess I'd feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. We've had the talk about it, we've both gained weight (him 30 lbs and me well, I just lost 40 lbs from having a baby but still have 15 more to go)...I know some men are turned off by extra weight but it's not like I don't take care of myself and or try to look good everyday. I am always taking time to "look sexy" for him, have makeup and take care of myself (manicures/pedicures/hair done) and I do it every month, go to the gym all the time. Dress in style...so it's not like I've become frumpy and wear sweat pants all the time, only to bed which BTW I've done since day 1 that I met him. I've NEVER liked sexy stuff and will NEVER wear it, I feel weird in it and he knows that.

I know we aren't kids/teens having sex anymore, I know that if the relationship isn't new anymore and you have a baby thing's are gonna change. But when we met we were already parents from previous marriages (both have boys) so it's not like we had nothing to think or worry about when we started dating, we've always had something going on and had to be creative cuz of the kids. Like I said, granted I just had a baby 2 mos. ago but thru my entire pregnancy I was more horny than ever and he was fine w/ it up until my trimester when my belly was really in the way. He said he was weirded by that, I can understand that. Now that I've had the baby I got the "okay" from the doc over 3 weeks' ago to have sex again and we've had it once and that was b/c I pretty much jumped on top of him and raped the guy. I guess I wanna feel like he's into me more and don't know what I can do to get him more "in the mood" or "relaxed".



Suggestions needed,
TY
~C

[lineside]

I am 36 and so far my sex drive has not slowed down but increased. I could have it several times a day but I am lucky to get it every two weeks. All my buddies pretty much tell me the same thing. So I think it happens in men and women. If someone has an answer to fix this problem, please enlighten us. If you could come up with a pill, you would pass Bill Gates as the richest person in the World !!!

[2hot4him]

My husband is 58 and I get lucky about every month or two...I used to get sex about every 2 weeks when we got married (that was a hot streak).

I got a hot one, eh?

I want sex every day!!

[nursefluffykins]

how did you deal with that kind of sex life over the years ?

i've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and i want sex more than he does, but i dont know exactly how to deal with it yet...

[bunnygirl]

I am in a LDR which is not the best situation, but I see my bf (age 51) once a month. He can usually go twice a day for a weekend and we have phone sex a couple of times a week. He is healthy, athletic, no medications, etc. I don't know if that makes a difference.

[bruins76]

I think it depends on so many things:

age
health
work
stress
kids
schedule
sex drive in general

I know my man used to want sex all the time in the begining but now that we are buying a house and have a new born thing's have slowed down. He admitted to me that long before he had his son his drive was high, so case in point...his son has added stress and between the 2 of us we have 3 kids and are trying for a 4th, I know...crazy but it's our last attempt for a girl (we have all boys). Then he is always in a bad mood cause his ex wife is a witch and give's him heck for his kid, up until 2 week's ago when he took her to court for custody/visitation changes he had to take care of his son Mon-Sun from 4:30p-10:30p which is nuts cuz he works' from 7a-3p and is up by 4a to go work out at the gym & have enough time to drive to work which is an hr away. So as you can see by this work/life schedule he is EXHAUSTED! I know I'd be. Now his schedule w/ his son is only on Mon., Tues., Wed., and every other weekend and someone has to be there to relieve him of his child care duties for 7:3p and we live an hour away from his son, so by the time he get's home it's 8:30pm so after being up since 4am, well...he passing out, literally.

I know logically these are the reasons that he has a lower drive. And I know in the begining of any relationship thing's are different, you don't have to sleep as much (you are on a high) and all you think about is being w/ that person all the time. Then life resums and your regular schedule take's your energy back.

I guess I can understand what's going on w/ my guy, I just wish he'd have more time, KWIM? I love him to death, he mean's the world to me and honestly, I can deal w/ the lack of sex sometimes too. I guess it would be nice if he was into it as much as I was. Then again, if he wanted me everyday, would I want it as much? I think it's almost like "what you want you can't have so you want it more?" kind of thing?

Well, thanks for the info...

[ua322]

Bruins, I think you answered your own question. I don't see how he has time to think about sex.

Example: I fantasize a hell of a lot: many, many times a day. But if I have a frenetic, exhausting schedule, I can go a couple days without hardly thinking about sex at all.

Also, if you're only 2 months out from giving birth, that's a bit quick for a guy to switch from watching his son born out of his wife's vagina and then re-associating that same vagina with hot sex. I'd just give that some time.

As a sidenote, have you had any periods in the past where you didn't have a sex drive and he did?

[nursefluffykins]

yes bruins i almost posted a similar comment in a different post.. i wonder as well if my sex drive would be as high is my bf wanted it all the time too :P lol

well in previous relationships basically we had sex drives more in 'sync and lets just say 90% of the time i kept up

[thetease13]

If it were up to us and our schedules met, we would do it every day or at least 3 or 4 times a week. But our schedules don't meet up often so it's like once every couple of months or so.

But, I'm in my 20s and he's in his 40s and I think our sex drive is about equal. He has a bit of a trouble getting it up the second time around, but that's normal for just about any age for a guy. It's harder the second time around.

But other than that, no real problem. I don't think age has a lot to do with it, but a lot of other factors do come in to play.

[eddy]

i have no idea when it starts, i am 37 and my wife is 31. we have a 2 year old and we have sex about 4 or 5 times a week. maybe i am a minority