My girl friends past

[countryboy123]

My girl friend is the only girl that i have ever fingered, had sex with or even kissed. Me on the other hand, I am not the only guy that she has ever kissed or done a hand job on. I know that i am the only one that she will be doing that with now but sometimes i just cant get over her sexual past. She promised me that she was a virgin and when we first started getting physical i noticed that I couldnt feel her "cherry" and I questioned her about it and she said that the cherry was there. I know what she had done with other guys is in the past but there are times i think about it and cant get over it. Is this NORMAL for me to feel this way???

[moose_hd]

Firstly, the hymen can be broken by normal things like using tampons, masturbating, sports, etc.

But if you are jealous over her past when in fact she is being honest with you and respecting the rules of the relationship, I think you need to honestly consider long and hard why you are jealous; Maybe you have your own self-esteem or control issues you need to work out?

[Brandye]

Number one, even doing first time exams on teen women, I can often not identify a hymen. It can go for many reasons.

Number two, her past is her past and your past is your past. If you are upset at this age, imagine how you will feel trying to date someone ten years from now. By then, most people have sexual histories and you will spend your life being jealous.

[ageless_gypsy]

My hymen was broken long before I lost my virginity. And if you know you're the only one she's going to be with now, what are you worrying about?

[bruins76]

First off, unless you are very young (and it sounds like you are, not trying to be mean but real), everyone has a past.

Unless you have a religious background that you want to marry a girl that is a virgin and likewise then your sexual past (except for STD info) should not apply or be discussed.

I am w/ someone who has a child w/ an ex-wife and I have a child by my ex-husband so we know that both of us have had sex w/ other people, and in fact experienced a very intimate part of life w/ out each other (having a child)...we just had a baby last month in May so now we are experiencing our own intimacy.

What I am trying to say is aside from my man's ex-wife and him telling me that he had 2 serious relationships after her and before me I do not know the amount of gal's he's been w/ and I don't want to know, just like he doesn't want to know about me, we don't even want to think about it.

BTW, you can "pop" your cherry when you go for an internal exam at a doc's office so you don't have to have that to be a virgin.

[jayman]

you need to simply say why are you jealous.if there is a present tense reason,and you cant get over it then you will never work,i am tellin ya this from experiance jealousy kills relationships its the most unattractive quality there is,and even if she was lying about bein a virgin she probly didnt want to hurt you.and if she wasnt would you still want her thats the real question,for future referance dont ask about a partners past its exactly that the past.

[ORANGE]

when you are young, everything seem to last for ever. life is short enjoy it. if she is into you, then you are lucky.

if she is not she will let you know asap....best of luck. remember love only come once so treat it as it was gold. work hard at it and enjoy every second.