Anythin for love?

[bboy acro]

I'm at a complete loss here, I'm in between the women I love and my best friend...I feel like complete scum and don't deserve the friendship I have.

They were going out for a while although her and I were always vibing each other, emotionally, mentally and sexually...he went to California one weekend and she came to my house and we had sex, it was planned, not sudden or by accident. We felt a level of comfort with each other that we never felt with anyone else. We had sex twice more before he arrived back. On the same night he came back from Cali, we had breakdance practice, after practice I told him what happened and he took it calmly. We talked about it and there was an entire ordeal where he planned on breaking up with her because he was convinced that she had chosen the wrong person to be with. It didnt work, they stayed together and wanted to overcome this, he forgave both of us...it was still far from over.

When we got "together" that weekend, as I was holding her and looking into her eyes, she said "I love you" and I responded with "I love you to baby", the worst part is that it was true and it felt so good to say. We have been saying it to each other ever since. We have also been seeing each other ever since secretly, even after admitting this monumental event to him we continue to disrespect his trust and friendship. We discuss this often, her and I, we don't want to stop even though we know its wrong. I'm at a loss and need some advice...I appreciate anyone for even reading this and even more so for putting there input...thanks. I put this post on the long term relationship and marrige catagory because I seek advice from older and expierienced people, thanks again.

-"Bboy Acro"

[S&Mmaster69]

The girl I'm with now is a result of a relationship with a friend and his girlfriend. The girl needs to tell her boyfriend how she feels, and if she feels that strongly about you then she needs to break up with her boyfriend. It's not fair to any of you if the relationship she's in now isn't the one she wants. I hope that this helps man, let me know if there's anything else I can do!

P.S. If the best friend is as good a friend as you make him out to be, then he will want happiness for you both and will,in time, learn to forgive and forget. It may not seem like it now but he will.

[Sweetness12]

i was in that situation not too long ago actually.... I told my ex boyfriend exactly what was going on and he took it actually quite well. We weren't made for each other is all....and i was seeing his boss/best friend. It turned out i think for the best, so.... tell her to tell him...

[bboy acro]

yo thanks for the advice, ill approach it slowly and post a reply when anythin happens...

[MrDinan]

I believe in the bandaid theory.. get it over with but eh whatever you want

[dancingdoc2]

Well...I've been stewing over this for several hours and now just have to say my piece. There are some things going on here that just upset my sensibilities.

First, a person can have two "best friends", one male, one female. That you would jeopardize your friendship with your male friend at the expense of a new friendship is troubling.

Second, that the woman would endanger her existing relationship is troubling.

Third, I believe many of us here would agree that what the three of you are and are not doing is just plain wrong.

All y'all need to get your ducks in a row and decide among the three of you who's with whom and then break the ties that bind the other connections. You know what must be done without asking yet you write us in hopes of some sort of magical solution. All this is quite immature.

[S&Mmaster69]

WOW! That is exactly what would have helped me in my situation Doc! Once again, you have the good advice!

[bboy acro]

Yea i do agree the entire situation is pretty immature, but it is what it is...in hopes of a magical solution, no just would like to here others input thats all.