She dumped me

[average joe]

okay we've been going out for 8 months, We were deeply in love, we even lost our virginities to each other. anyways she would get controllive and such which i didn't mind but u know got annoying. She also said i love you like every 5 secs whcih got annonying so i told her that im not gonna say it that often and that i really do still love her.Well a week ago a friend told me that she was controlling me and i was in a toxic relationship. well like a dumb fool i broke up with her.four hours later i knew i made a mistake, we taked things out and got everything situated. We had make up sex and she was like i love you and stuff. Well i had work all week and i wouldn't see her for a couple a days. on our 8 month, she had a girls night out, well she called another guy and i guess they were holding hands. the next day she acts all weird. Well she eventually breaks up with me to go out with the other guy. Well the other guy didn't like her and rejected her. she went a cried and also angery. Later that night she asked another guy out and he said yes. I heard they were making out. She treats me like dirt now. What do you guys think? Do you think she's just using the other guy to hide her feeling and make her feel good about herself aka rebound relationship. Im hurting really bad and i dont know an i wanna know what you guys think.

Thanks

[i<3karma]

if you really like her and want to be with her even after what she did dont try to get back with her just make your feelings clear and leave the situation to "stew" if she wants you thatll drive her nuts and shell come back but remember if she cheated once shell do it again....have fun

[Sweetness12]

i say screw her.. that sounds like she treated you like dirt... women should never do that....i never did that to any of my b/f's..thats just being bitchy

[dancingdoc2]

Here is another post in which I begin by saying "what drama".

No one needs this much drama in their life. Adults do not act this way.

Give this person some time and space to mature and grow up. She seems to be very insecure and this is very draining emotionally. Moreover, a healthy relationship is a partnership in which both people work together. Controlling your partner is very unhealthy and unproductive.

You should be devoting the next few years to dating as many people as possible. The whole purpose of dating is so people can sample some of what humanity has to offer in a framework that is much closer than a circle of friends. You get to see various characters, quirks, likes, dislikes, goals, values, and more, so that when the time does come to choose Ms. Right you will be better able to make the right choice. All too often nowadays people date and then stop when the first warm body shows and interest. This is not how to find the right person for you; you need exposure and you need to see more of what the people are like who are also looking for Mr. Right.

I'm not saying to never date this girl, but I sure wouldn't be in an exclusive relationship with her or anyone else for awhile. Play the field and get to know many people. Then as your exposure and experiences grow and begin to jell, begin narrowing the field down to a couple and then just one.

By eliminating the exclusivity aspect of dating, you eliminate all the drama and heartache associated with expectations and eventual breakups, etc.

[Ryouko]

she sounds very immature. I know how this can be, but yes, she is probably either doing that to get back at you, or has gottenused to being close to someone and now has lost that and needs someone to fill the spot. and getting sort of desperate asking two guys out so one-after-the-other.

[orchid]

i can't imagine that, today is actually mine and my boyfriend's eight month mark, and i can't imagine how much it would hurt to break up, so i'm sorry it didn't work out for you.

if you both lost your virginities to each other, she may just be scared and wondering what else is out there and isn't quite ready to be in a long term relationship. after some time apart, she may realize that you are what she wants, but you have to think about if she's what you really want. someone who acts immature like that may not be a good person to have a relationship with.

[average joe]

yeah i know that i wanted to be a cop and she would be like no ur not, im like y, well u dont know what ive been through, Well her house has gotten broken into before and she wants somebody to stay with her at night. Plus another thing is that she didn't like me lifting weights. Now after our breakup i dont feel like doing anything of these things anymore. I know the thing to do is accept it, its really hard but you do you do this step, do you just say to ur self that she's gone? I got all pics down and stuff, does that work? Im really sad. She said things ended cuz she didn't have no more feeling for me and she hasn't had feeling for a couple of weeks but she seemed normal and she also said if that i wouldn't of broke up with her, then we would still be together.

[nursefluffykins]

her behaviour really doesnt seem appropriate in my opinion...

i have done a couple of not so great things in the past, but it wasn't to people that i was deeply in love with...

and what the heck could be the problem with lifting weights ? (other than steroids? lol)...