Maybe we got too close too quick?

[Sweetness12]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now and i think its starting to get pretty serious... We both came from relationships that were rather long before hand. I was with my ex for 2 years and he was with his ex for almost a year and a half. I dated a few people between my long time ex and my new boyfriend, and he dated a few more people before me as well. He was looking for someone to stay with for a while, and I guess I was looking for the same thing cause I was so used to being with that one person for so long...
well, we started having sex after we were dating for about 3 weeks. I thought that it was way early...but it was one of those spur of the moment kind of deals.
Latley i dont know if its because of his new job, or if we are just not as close as we have been, but I dont hear from him some days, and some days he calls me right before he goes to sleep, and other times he calls when he gets off of work.
His brother just moved back down here and he hadn't seen him for about a year, and i dont know if he just wants to spend time with his brother (which i have absolutley no problem with) or whats going on. He only started acting like this after his brother moved back..about a month ago. Whenever we are both around Nathan (his brother) he gets snappy at me, and sometimes acts like im not even there... I dont know if we got too close at the beginning of the relationship, or if he's just showing out in front of his brother....
Im seriously thinking about ending it, but i do love him, and it would hurt me more than it would hurt him.

I've told him what i thought and pretty much got no response from him.

I dont know what to do

[Brandye]

I believe that you are 16 from other posts. Maybe you would be better off to cool it for a while. Sex is an adult game with adult rules. Those rules can be tough for a 16 yo.

[dominusb]

on the contrary, i am in almost exactly the same position as you, i had sex for the first time with my girlfriend about a month into the relationship, and have continued for the past 5 months and we are still a very loving couple, regardless of age or time, and we have not yet had a problem with the relationship. now i dont believe that that will always be the case, but we are both open and truthful to eachother, and that communication is what has helped us stay together so far, and will help us stay together in the future.

maybe you should actually try and sit him down to talk about it, because him sticking his head in the sand wont make the problem go away, it will only make it worse

[dancingdoc2]

Perhaps you have talked enough for now and should back off for the time being in order to see what he does with all the talk.

In essence what you are doing is handing him one end of your rope to see if he handles the "business" of your relationship and your friends well, or, he proverbially hangs himself.

[Sweetness12]

well from the day that I posted this, till now, he's still acting the same, but it's starting to ease up some. He's not as distant because i started doing to him what he does to me.. Not talk to him for days on end, then all of a sudden he called me yesterday and wanted me to come over..well, as usual when he wants me to come over, he's in 'the mood' and thats what we end up doing...except for last night. I talked to him for 3 hours about this deal and he said he was going to try to ' quit being bitchy' but i doubt it would happen. I even kind of ended the conversation with a threat, if u could call it that. I told him to change the way hes been acting or never talk to me again, and that got the response i wanted. "im sorry! i'll try! it's just stress...' and i know it isnt stress... its just him being a dick. I'll keep updates and let u know if he's changed or not.

[sweetiez]

oh man good luck girl..

[Sweetness12]

Im breaking it up on Sunday if things dont improve

[nursefluffykins]

sorry to hear, it's never an easy thing to do, but if it can't be worked out it can't. Could be the best thing for now. Find someone that it clicks better with from the start hopefully, don't drag out a bad relationship forever i guess...