my wife is still very shy after 18 years

[help me]

hi i have been married for 18 years and my wife is still shy in the bed room i have done everything in front of i have masterbated in front of her well smelling her pantys played with my ass in front of her . i love her body all of it and she know it i love the taset of her she know that to she wont let me tung her ass . i cant get her to masterbated her self with the lite on in front of me and that just turns me on. i got her to start to fingher her self in front of the mirror once and she started to cry . i have ask her and why she is shy afher all this time and says i just am .all i want is for her to go crazy all over me or her self and not be embbrest about it .just not even think about it .and i know she would love it to . can you give me any pointers to get her over beeing shy thanks

[dancingdoc2]

Unfortunately, it is what it is and after this length of time I rather doubt she will change. My wife is very shy also, although, her shyness is manifested differently. She is a professional woman and deals with people one-on-one, OK, yet when it comes to groups, even with people she knows, she will retreat into another room and not come out. Nothing over the years seems to make a change so I/we are resigned to her just not doing family/friend functions. I know, this is not the same; I am mentioning it only because this is something that has bugged me since the beginning of our relationship. I believe you will just have to accept what is and move on.

[2hot4him]

I have been married to a man for almost 18 years and I cannot get him to do certain things (tho not shyness-other issues but maybe it is shyness to a degree). some people are just not comfortable about their bodies and/or sexuality and doing things with their partner may feel like "performing" in a sense. It might also feel a bit like exhibitionism.....but if your wife is shy about it please don't force her or make her cry you could cause more problems in the long term. you might have to take much smaller steps and take it very slow, not all at once.