I want my wife to have an affiar

[Timosha]

My wife and I have a very good sex life but I feel sometimes that she wants some other partners. She is much younger then me and was a virgin when we met so there has been a lot of teaching on my part. At first she was afraid of oral sex until her first time, then I gave her a vibrator (she has since burnt out two), anal play came later and now she insists on it. I have always noticed that she gets turned on by gangbang scenes in movies and I know that two years ago she missed a chance of having a little sex with someone else and to be honest when she came home she was so turned on I could barely control her. It took her a while to tell me all the details but whenever she talked about I could tell that she really wanted to have sex with this guy. I have mentioned to her that she can take a lover if she would like but this is the weird part, sometimes it turns her on and other times it disquiets her. Now my question is if I keep on brining up that I am for her having sex with someone else will it disgust her or will she do it? I am not worried about loosing her I just want her to fulfill some of her fantasies.

[Brandye]

You may not be afraid of losing her but she is afraid you will lose her. Given age difference and her limited outside experience, she is very curious and is afraid she will find something that really rocks her boat.

Her different response to you suggesting a lover reflects her confusion. Sometimes she thinks it would be strengthening of your relationship and sometimes she thinks it will be the end. You continue to bring it up at great risk. If she chooses to have a lover, that will be her decision and you will know nothing of it until and unless she decides to tell you. And she would most likely tell you in the context of "good-bye." Be careful what you wish for.

[SCAR]

what about a threesome?

[WallyLlama]

I'd have to agree with Brandye on this one... and add the question, "Who is this about?"

The short version is you'll be a lot better off if you stop making decisions for each other and start making decisions together.