Loss of Excitement

iamawesum69420 · #1 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 05:25 PM

I know this topic might be repetitive and been covered too many times but please bear with me. I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for about a year and a half now. We are living together and have basically doing so for a little over a year. What I mean by that is we just technically moved in together (got an apt together) in September but when we lived on campus at school we always shared his dorm room. Anyway, we have seem to have lost the exciting sex that we used to have. I know it's common to have less sex and it's supposed to mean we're on a whole new wonderful level but I've always been very sexual and sex is very important to me in a relationship. I'm ok with not having it everyday (I'd rather have it a few times a day though

) but I'd really like to have that hot passionate sex we used to have. We seem to have just hit this rut and he's ok with it but I'm not. I feel like there's something wrong with me or something, like he's just gotten used to me and doesn't find me attractive anymore. I know this isn't true but it seems that way sometimes. I always mention trying new things but either we only do it once, it doesn't work out, or he doesn't seem interested. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to get him more in the mood more often or get some of the passion back into our sex life? If it's like this now I'd hate to think about what it's like when we're married.

bacchusella · #2 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 05:30 PM

What kind of stuff have you tried before? There are sooo many options.

iamawesum69420 · #3 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 05:35 PM

Roleplay
Bondage
A few toys
Different positions
KY
Boob sex
Mutual masturbation
Webcamming
Home-made porn
Watching porn
Phone sex (with each other and letting others listen to us)

That's all I can think of right off the top of my head. I think the main problem is that we try something new and then will only do it once and end up back in the same rut.

bacchusella · #4 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 05:39 PM

WELL. It all sounds good to me! Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe since you're in college, you could go home for a weekend with out him, and maybe being away for a while will help?

iamawesum69420 · #5 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 05:42 PM

I have talked to him about it and that's when we will try that something new just that one time or sometimes he'll seem upset and ask "The sex isn't good anymore?" but that's not it at all. It's still good, the passion is just gone.

And I'm planning to go home to see my parents for a weekend so maybe that will do us some good.

bacchusella · #6 (**permalink**) 04-19-2006, 05:46 PM

Maybe one thing you could do is hold off on sex for a while. Tease the hell out of each other, but no touching. Wear clothes to bed every night, don't shower together. Do this for about two weeks. You'll be dying to have sex again, and maybe it will help...but talk to him about it first!