serious threesome

[starmyst]

I am in a quandary and have no where else to turn. Almost a year ago my husband and I started a threesome with a very good friend of mine. Things have been great. I have never loved my husband more. But I have fallen hard for her. She is married, and her husband knows about us, but doesn't want to "know" about it. So he isn't involved.

Her marriage hasn't been that great for several years. And lately she has talked a lot about divorce. I support her no matter what her decision. But If it ever came to that I would love to have her move in with me and my husband, be a part of our family. As much as I think she wants to do that, she doesn't seem to be able to look past societies "norm".

So when she talks about divorce and marriage to someone else it breaks my heart. I've told her how I feel, but I still don't think she understands. Or she feels like she's intruding even though I have tried to convince her otherwise.

Does anyone else know someone with this kind of problem? Sometime I want to end the physical and just keep the friendship part, but how do I go about that without anyone getting hurt. Especially me.