Threesome in a relationship

[TrUcKiN_GaL]

HI I am so happy I finally found somewhere to go to get some advise and talk about this issue I have.

I feel bad this being my first post but this is urgent I so need your help!!!

My husband and I have been together for 10 years we have 2 girls together 9 and 10 months we have a really strong marriage and we adore each other very much ....recently (3 nights ago) we had our first threesome it was always my fantasy and I had my best friend over we are all open minded about it and it just sort of happened I did set guidelines Hubby had to wear a condom when having intercourse with her and there was no kissing on the lips aloud but that was about it the whole experience whilst actually doing it was exciting and all but now 3 days later I just feel sick everytime I look at him I see him having sex with her, we did it in our bed which was so wrong I cant even look at the bed without seeing them on it.....
What have I done and how do I get over this please help me.....

My best friend and Hubby have just gone on with it like nothing happened he has been very attentive to me as he always is we have made love several times since but I just cant seem to shake this image from my head......

Please tell me it will go away....

Thanks in advance for your advise and sorry this was so long..

[deviant]

Jealousy, to me, is something that can not be reasoned with. Your minds ability to dissagree with itself has been one of the hardest things that I've found to battle with.

A few years ago I was with a girl that I had dated in the past. Afterwards I learned that she had slept with an aquantance of mine during the time between our encounters. In my head, I knew she had done nothing wrong, but I was unable to get past it for several weeks.

The only way out is communication. Tell him your concerns, tell him you know its unreasonable, tell him you still love him and want to get past it, but be sure to talk it out. If you both love each other it will work.

Also, you failed to mention if you are able to speak to your friend still.

But still, toss the sheets, pillowcases, headboard etc if you can afford new ones.

Good luck

-deviant

[ua322]

Originally Posted by TrUcKiN_GaL

HI I am so happy I finally found somewhere to go to get some advise and talk about this issue I have.

I feel bad this being my first post but this is urgent I so need your help!!!

My husband and I have been together for 10 years we have 2 girls together 9 and 10 months we have a really strong marriage and we adore each other very much ....recently (3 nights ago) we had our first threesome it was always my fantasy and I had my best friend over we are all open minded about it and it just sort of happened I did set guidelines Hubby had to wear a condom when having intercourse with her and there was no kissing on the lips aloud but that was about it the whole experience whilst actually doing it was exciting and all but now 3 days later I just feel sick everytime I look at him I see him having sex with her, we did it in our bed which was so wrong I cant even look at the bed without seeing them on it.....
What have I done and how do I get over this please help me.....

My best friend and Hubby have just gone on with it like nothing happened he has been very attentive to me as he always is we have made love several times since but I just cant seem to shake this image from my head......

Please tell me it will go away....

Thanks in advance for your advise and sorry this was so long..

On the subject of jealousy, add me to the list of jealous people in this thread.

Your husband gets to have sex with his wife's friend with her approval and then he follows that up with getting to have sex with his wife "several times" in the 3 days following the threesome.

I'm imagining Yakov Smirnoff saying "What a country!!!"

[Brandye]

A rather predictable outcome that, I hope, everyone here asking about threesomes reads.

You two sit down, with the kids at grandmum's, and talk about why you did it, how you did it and how it has left each of you feeling. There are certainly no secrets - you were both there and participating.

Then the two of you decise how you can get over it.

[desaraej]

Originally Posted by TrUcKiN_GaL

HI I am so happy I finally found somewhere to go to get some advise and talk about this issue I have.

I feel bad this being my first post but this is urgent I so need your help!!!

My husband and I have been together for 10 years we have 2 girls together 9 and 10 months we have a really strong marriage and we adore each other very much ....recently (3 nights ago) we had our first threesome it was always my fantasy and I had my best friend over we are all open minded about it and it just sort of happened I did set guidelines Hubby had to wear a condom when having intercourse with her and there was no kissing on the lips aloud but that was about it the whole experience whilst actually doing it was exciting and all but now 3 days later I just feel sick everytime I look at him I see him having sex with her, we did it in our bed which was so wrong I cant even look at the bed without seeing them on it.....
What have I done and how do I get over this please help me.....

My best friend and Hubby have just gone on with it like nothing happened he has been very attentive to me as he always is we have made love several times since but I just cant seem to shake this image from my head......

Please tell me it will go away....

Thanks in advance for your advise and sorry this was so long..

honestly...sorry to say this...but i am glad you posted this. i have wanted to have a threesome with my fiancee and my best friend and the only reason we didnt was because she thought i would have bad feelings about it later on. after reading this i realized that i would probably have the same problem except we have only been together for just over a year and a problem like that may harm our relationship more than it may harm yours. lets just say that you saved me form creating a major mistake that could have ruined my relationship if it had gone to that.

[TrUcKiN_GaL]

WOW thank you for all your replies..... Well we sat down and had a chat about how I was feeling and I found out that he actually was feeling the same way he just didnt want to say anything for fear of reuning what he thought was a great experience for me.

He said that he had no feelings from the night and that he just wants to put in the past and never do it again but the best thing about what he said was that he had made him appreciate me so much more which I had the same feeling as well so all in all we both decided that we would focus on the good points that came out of this experience.

I feel so much better although I really do not think that I will ever completely erase this image I have in my head.... I do think I can move on from this now that I have spoken to him and we both seem to be on the same page.

Thank you all so much for replying to me and you really did help me get through a really tough spot I dont really have any body else that I trust enough to confide in for this type of thing and i shudder to think how I would have gone if I didn't get the advise I got from you all.


Cheers