Up in the air

[Vinny]

I've bee with my g/f for abut 6 months and i love her with all my heart but latley she has been a bit off with me. we had a bit of a tif over xmas and we have just recently got back on track, but i think she maybe cheatin on me with one of my friends. i think this because he is always texting on his fone and when i ask him who he is textin he gives me a different name every time. i know he has feeling for my girlfriend but i dont think she des fr him. this has put me in 2 minds though i dont know weather to trust what she has told me (that she isn't cheating on me) or break it off with her.

Any ideas people i wuld really appreciate it
Many thanks

[Lass]

I've had to learn in my own relationship, trust is the main factor.

If you can't sit down in a quite room and think it all through and at the end realize you take her word above all the tiny voices screaming in your head that she is cheating...then the trust isn't there and I ask you what are you doing with her?

I know what you're going through. I had a similar situation not even a month back. I'm not saying trust her blindly...trusting anyone blindly is a bad thing and don't trust her because you love her. Trust her because you can. If you can't, well, then you have your answer.

As for you friend likeing her, I'm taking it you've confronted him about this. If not, I would, but that's just me being a woman. Tell him how it makes you feel and if he can't understand that then dump him as a friend.

[Lonewolf*]

Talk to her again, ask her if something is going on, because if something is then theres no point for you to stick around, obviously she doesnt love you that much if shes with someone else. If she says nothings going on... well then you have to trust in your gut to tell you if she is lying or not.

When I was going out with my last boyfriend, I use to text my guy friend all the time, (who is now my boyfriend). But I wasnt cheating on my last boyfriend, which I know might seem hard to believe, since I'm now going out with the friend I was always texting. But I wasnt. Yes I had feelings for him when I was texting him but never acted on anything because we were just friends.

It kind of seems a little suspicious that he gives you different names all the time, but is there a possiblity that hes not lying? If he normally texts a bunch of people, then you really cant use that to weigh in the facts.

Also like Lass said above, talk to him. He's not a friend worth keeping if hes going to go behind your back.

[Vinny]

thanks guys

just so u knw i have just got back from a great night with her and all myfears have gone. she gave me my valentines card which has wiped all my fears away. as 4 my friend he isn't even going to be in the picture anymore.

thanks again u have all been a big help

[stormtrooperdude]

Originally Posted by Vinny

as 4 my friend he isn't even going to be in the picture anymore.

I hope you don't mean he is in the trunk of your car by that.

[apost3]

Not to open any old wounds, but what exactly about the card wiped away your fears? And if he's out of the picture, does that mean you were right, she cheated on you and now he's gone, but she's still around? What are the details? Thanks!

[Lonewolf*]

Originally Posted by stormtrooperdude

I hope you don't mean he is in the trunk of your car by that.

Sounds like something I would be guilty of lol.

But yes what do you mean by 'not in the picture anymore'?
And like apost3 asked, just curious what was in the card that wiped away all your fears?

I'm happy for you.

[apost3]

Curiosity is killing me.. plus as we all know, a good day/night can be stronger than a bad month.. dont' overlook the facts because of a great night..

and for crying out loud, fill us in!! LOL

[Vinny]

lo guys

so u all know as uve all asked we have been gettin on great ever since she gave me the card. as 4 what was in it that is between me and her but let me tell u it erased all my worries. as 4 my ex m8 i had words with him (nothing more) and he has found other friends and he is never around me or my g/f so just so u knw im really happy

thx 4 all ur input on this matter u helped me out alot

[ua322]

Originally Posted by Vinny

lo guys

so u all know as uve all asked we have been gettin on great ever since she gave me the card. as 4 what was in it that is between me and her but let me tell u it erased all my worries. as 4 my ex m8 i had words with him (nothing more) and he has found other friends and he is never around me or my g/f so just so u knw im really happy

thx 4 all ur input on this matter u helped me out alot

I assume this means that your buddy has been hitting on your GF and she has been telling him in no uncertain terms that she's not interested.

Anything else would be a little suspicious.