Is younger gay man using my female friend?

[John99]

My friend(intimate) age 53, has developed a relationship with a younger gay man(40) that she met a year ago on vacation in Europe. They communicate almost daily,(she is in US, he in Europe) exchanging details about their lives including love lives. Next week they are spending a week sharing a room at a resort . This strikes me as a sick relationship. A gay man that I know says she is likely a F_g Hag and that this man will be bragging that he has a female follower even sharing his room. Friends who were with her last year when she met this chap have cautioned her saying that she does not really know him- just partied last year at resort.
She ignores it all - telling me 'get over it he is gay" at least she says he is and I am accepting that for now.
I intend to end a quite good relationship because I find the whole thing very over the top- particularly the room sharing bit. Am I being unreasonable??

[WallyLlama]

Unreasonable, I think not!

There are many forms of intimacy and it sounds to me like you are objecting to the intimacy she is sharing with him, all the way from daily conversations about intimate details to sharing a room to possibly his claim to her and on her.

It doesn't help much that her response seems to give zero credibility to what you think and feel.

The "gay" issue has nothing to do with it and I wouldn't allow it to be leveraged.

Alternative: tell her you've developed a close friendship with a Lesbian woman...