sex with wife life sucks

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gorgeous_mistake

Once again Sera, you amaze me with your life lessons!! I really do hope people read these, especially those against pre-marital sex. I respect their views to the fullest, but is it more important to keep good face with your church, or to have an everlasting, loving, compatible relationship, which would last the rest of your life, and would fulfill you in almost ever way possible?

What they do is their business and does not require being shared with the church or peers! That's the part I did not get. Yet, on BCP will not discuss and not to concerned if it failed? If you have to keep up your appearances in the community which you are raised in; do that---just keep your personal life that, personal!!! Still grounded?

[gorgeous_mistake]

Originally Posted by sera300

What they do is their business and does not require being shared with the church or peers! That's the part I did not get. Yet, on BCP will not discuss and not to concerned if it failed? If you have to keep up your appearances in the community which you are raised in; do that---just keep your personal life that, personal!!! Still grounded?

PRECISELY! Keep your life personal!! It's your life, and YOUR future. Both partners need to be clever and pick sexual partners, whom will keep their mouths shut!! It's not as if you're going to go in front of your preacher/priest/father/mother and having sex right in their faces!

YUP!!

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gorgeous_mistake

PRECISELY! Keep your life personal!! It's your life, and YOUR future. Both partners need to be clever and pick sexual partners, whom will keep their mouths shut!! It's not as if you're going to go in front of your preacher/priest/father/mother and having sex right in their faces!

YUP!!

I still keep in concealed from family, friends, etc. I honestly never knew people did not have good sex lives! Why? I did not discuss it.

[gorgeous_mistake]

Which is what all people should do, not discuss it. Why should it be necessary to tell anyone? Shouldn't even tell your "best friend" anything, one slip of the mouth and BAM there goes your reputation.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gorgeous_mistake

Which is what all people should do, not discuss it. Why should it be necessary to tell anyone? Shouldn't even tell your "best friend" anything, one slip of the mouth and BAM there goes your reputation.

I recall way back when I was about 14, one good friend said something to me, I said "yes, we did". She then proceeded to "no longer be my friend" since we were different. I was thinking WTF? But learned quick it's not your reputation as much it's embellished stories from people who are bored; never spoke to other women at work about sex lives, never knew they had issues, I thought everyone had great sex until I hit here---I think EEK pointed it out and all the posts.

Fast forward to the future...engaged, he spends the night, we try to sneak the car in my garage at 2 am w/out waking my brother up with the car lights (on the other half of 25 acres)...those 2 were looking out their window laughing--they said the comdey act could not be missed. My parents don't want to know, my brother does not, and I don't want to know what they do either...And no one else has any business knowing a thing.

[gorgeous_mistake]

What type of friend was that? At 16, I've learned there are no such thing as "friends." Acquintances, yes. People that make you laugh and are fun to hang out with, yes. Friends, no. There might be a few exceptions; the only people I can call "friends" are males.

You didn't know people had sex issues? That's the way it should be, no one should know. This site is an exception, well I think so.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gorgeous_mistake

What type of friend was that? At 16, I've learned there are no such thing as "friends." Acquintances, yes. People that make you laugh and are fun to hang out with, yes. Friends, no. There might be a few exceptions; the only people I can call "friends" are males.

You didn't know people had sex issues? That's the way it should be, no one should know. This site is an exception, well I think so.

At 14? What did I know. Not much! Learned fast friends are very few and change with times--now known as acquaintances. Over time, the deepest people I call a friend are those I know well and have demonstrated staying through time (20 years or so). Very few & can probably count on one hand. The majority of the closest are men. I have found the majority of women, if your life is not identical & picture perfect, they turn a potential friendship into a competition. Among those married? If you are non-married? You must be out to take off w/ their husband. I don't much bother...I do my own thing. At my age no; did not know people had bad/absent sex in their marriage! LOL! At least you learned early on! Now try to keep the cops out of it!

[gorgeous_mistake]

Haha I'll try to keep them out of it!! That was funny!! Why do women think you're always after "their men", and why do some women choose married men? There are so many out there! What's the point of going for the one with the ring? Men do make better companions, they're so much more... simple.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by gorgeous_mistake

Haha I'll try to keep them out of it!! That was funny!! Why do women think you're always after "their men", and why do some women choose married men? There are so many out there! What's the point of going for the one with the ring? Men do make better companions, they're so much more... simple.

Women are insecure and face it many married, had kids, and no real career--although they did have a college education. Therefore, their entire world is built around who they have become from their husbands success. Now, I cross paths with these guys; we get along, I am strong minded, and they know it. Do I want to play with the married ones? Hell, no!!! I respect the wedding band & I come home to a houseful of pets--not a spouse as some married swingers do. I do not need to fall for someone who is taken. See these wives, try to befriend you then will cut apart your independence b/c they never formed a life and are lonely & insecure. Never made their lives, just rode on hubby & he was the center of their attentions and their self-worth.

Other single women? Love married men. Why? You get the companionship without the headache and still have your own life. Face it he's not leaving his wife yet provides entertainment & companionship. A Wedding band is a good attraction for women...yes, male friends have put one on. For some women I think it's the challenge.

[gorgeous_mistake]

True. I never want to be one of "those" women. I'm proud of you for not wanting them.

Think maybe its better to not wear a wedding ring?